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<blockquote data-quote="totoro" data-source="post: 30293" data-attributes="member: 3155"><p>I know my difficult child is a girl and only 5.5 but I had to stop arguing with her when she was out of control, taking things away did not help us at all, she could care less!!! </p><p></p><p>I started taking the complete opposite aproach and am overly compasionate, I will hug her and cuddle her aven when she doesn't want it, sometimes she gets angry and I say but I need it, please!!! Then I will say well then I am not going to do anything either and I will lay on her floor and not budge, and kind of copy her... and say I don't really want to make breakfast today or clean the house. I will be very dramatic and say why does everything suck, why is it so hard??? I am not going to do anything today. I will follow her atround and say the things that she says . (not copy her but act in the same manner as her) a lot of the time she ends up either laughing becuase she see it is kind of silly or she gets sad and tries to help me and says it is OK Mommy, </p><p></p><p>I just didn't know what else to do because of her intense BiPolar (BP) and Sensory Integration Disorder (SID) she is so up and down sensitive to everything... walking on eggshells!!! She is fragile emotionally. So if I yell at her she falls apart, if I rush her she freaks out, if I argue she gets angry... she is then unable to get out of it. Then if she wakes up depressed I have to deal with that... or anxious..."no one likes me" etc. </p><p>So I have found me being silly and playing this little game has really helped us... even things like brushing our teeth. I will chase them with the toothbrush, or if I catch them they have to brush... but if it too much we skip it and I tell them old yuck mouth will brush later...</p><p>I know you son is a bit older but maybe some of these things will help, I have had to stop stressing about being on time, for most things. It just causes too much anxiety on difficult child... and if she is going to go to school and it is too much by that time and she is a wreck- why bother. Obviously not to the point that they are manipulating the situation... Ha Ha. Too much!!!</p><p>It is all about trying to stay sane and keep a sense of humor and enjoy these kids as much as possible.... even though it is so hard at times.</p><p></p><p>Good luck.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="totoro, post: 30293, member: 3155"] I know my difficult child is a girl and only 5.5 but I had to stop arguing with her when she was out of control, taking things away did not help us at all, she could care less!!! I started taking the complete opposite aproach and am overly compasionate, I will hug her and cuddle her aven when she doesn't want it, sometimes she gets angry and I say but I need it, please!!! Then I will say well then I am not going to do anything either and I will lay on her floor and not budge, and kind of copy her... and say I don't really want to make breakfast today or clean the house. I will be very dramatic and say why does everything suck, why is it so hard??? I am not going to do anything today. I will follow her atround and say the things that she says . (not copy her but act in the same manner as her) a lot of the time she ends up either laughing becuase she see it is kind of silly or she gets sad and tries to help me and says it is OK Mommy, I just didn't know what else to do because of her intense BiPolar (BP) and Sensory Integration Disorder (SID) she is so up and down sensitive to everything... walking on eggshells!!! She is fragile emotionally. So if I yell at her she falls apart, if I rush her she freaks out, if I argue she gets angry... she is then unable to get out of it. Then if she wakes up depressed I have to deal with that... or anxious..."no one likes me" etc. So I have found me being silly and playing this little game has really helped us... even things like brushing our teeth. I will chase them with the toothbrush, or if I catch them they have to brush... but if it too much we skip it and I tell them old yuck mouth will brush later... I know you son is a bit older but maybe some of these things will help, I have had to stop stressing about being on time, for most things. It just causes too much anxiety on difficult child... and if she is going to go to school and it is too much by that time and she is a wreck- why bother. Obviously not to the point that they are manipulating the situation... Ha Ha. Too much!!! It is all about trying to stay sane and keep a sense of humor and enjoy these kids as much as possible.... even though it is so hard at times. Good luck. [/QUOTE]
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