A little background: My one and only son fathered two beautiful children, my granddaughter and grandson. When my granddaughter was 3 and my grandson 3 months, my son abandoned them. My daughter in law divorced my son and has remarried. She and her new husband had another daughter who is now a year. (I claim this new little one as a granddaughter also) They are a 3 hour plane ride from me. I have a very good relationship with my former daughter in law. (she is really like a daughter to me) Several years ago I had a conversation with my daughter in law about "someday" if the kids have questions about their bio-father that I would be happy to help answer those questions. My oldest granddaughter turned 8 and I sent her a gift. After she opened it she asked her mom why she has 3 sets of grand parents. My daughter in law called to tell me that my granddaughter has started to ask questions. She told my GD to write down her questions (she keeps a journal) and she could ask them to me when husband and I go for a visit in a few weeks. My daughter in law did her best to explain. My GD went to her "daddy" and hugged him and told him that she is so happy that he is her daddy. She later told my daughter in law that she was angry at bio-father which I think is a very normal response. I plan on telling my GD that bio-father was not ready to be a daddy. I will reassure her that him leaving had nothing to do with her. I will tell her that he doesn't keep in touch with me either. I will tell her how lucky she is to have a new daddy that loves her very much. I will share with her that I too had a new daddy. My sons behavior and choices were like an earthquake and there are still aftershocks. I just pray and hope that my GD will be able to accept this and move on from it. I hope she does not harbor anger in her tender little heart.