I knew this was going to happen, but ...

Discussion in 'The Watercooler' started by TerryJ2, Aug 23, 2009.

  1. TerryJ2

    TerryJ2 Well-Known Member

    It still hurts.
    The Italian restaurant whose walls I painted 4 yrs ago is closing. We had dinner tonight and the owner said his business is way down and he's shutting the doors.
    All the murals will be painted over.
    Every last detail.
    I posted pictures of them here once. Now I can't even remember how to post photos. I think I used PhotoBucket.
    This is so sad. We had so many meals and parties there.
    I spent a year painting every square inch of wall space.

    My husband doesn't get it. I went to the grocery store to buy chocolate and wine and have a pity party. He didn't understand why. I told him because the restaurant is closing. He went into detail about the business aspects of it. I interrupted him and said, "I was just thinking about my murals and how he's going to paint them over."
    I expected a hug or something and he said, "Well, he is who he is. You knew it was going to happen sooner or later."

    Not exactly the warm fuzzy I wanted.

    difficult child was a huge PITA tonight. He had all weekend to load his backpack with-new school supplies, sharpen pencils, get his clothes together. We finally took the plug from the TV and forced him to get his b*typical teen off the chair. He yelled and yelled and finally did it, but gosh, how he makes huge deals out of everything. Finally, husband sent him to his room.
    I saw him a while later, writing something. He had written a sad note on a folder (don't know why he wrote on a folder, but that's difficult child for you) about how hard it was for him to leave his old school and go to one he doesn't want to go to.
    I told him that he could bring up his grades and transfer back but he didn't want to talk about it. He had big tears streaming down his cheeks and I told him I knew it was hard.

    It's been a crummy night for us. Tomorrow has GOT to be better.
    Thanks for letting me vent.
    And if someone can remind me how to post photos or links, I would appreciate it. Then I can do the Hawaii pics, too.

    Arrgh! It's 20 after 11 and I have to get up at 6:30!!!!
  2. nvts

    nvts Active Member

    Hi Terry,

    I know how you feel (sort of). My mom was a very gifted artist. When I was a kid in grade school, she belonged to the volunteer group that cleaned the church and got carried away.

    We Catholics "do" the stations of the cross. There are 12 different "key" points when Jesus was going through the various points during the entire crucifiction. Mom decided that they needed a good cleaning, washed them and all of the slight painting of these 3-D wall statues came off. She offered to paint all of them.

    She put in pain staking hours and brought these things to life. They were absolutely stunning. People commented on them always and we were so proud of the job she did, that our chests puffed with pride.

    Two years after she died, the church burned down to rubble. Not one of them survived.

    It's heart wrenching to see all of that work, that can never be replaced, that no picture can clearly do justice to, just disappear.

    I truly am sorry for your loss.

    Eat 1/2 your chocolate, get up and get difficult child out to school and then eat the rest of the candy. You deserve it.

  3. Marguerite

    Marguerite Active Member

    First, make sure you have detailed photos, a special album of the place. Next, see if you can meet the new owner and let him/her know that if the murals ever need modifying or touching up, you'll do it (if the murals are kept).

    Thirty years ago husband & I moved to the village where we live now. back then, the end shop in the arcade was a takeaway food place, specialising in seafood. There was a mural painted on the wall in a sort of bricked in frame. The mural was a portrait of a local bloke, a fisherman who was a real character. The background of the portrait was dark brown like the rest of the wall.

    Then the business was sold. In the time we've been here, the business has been a dentist's, a hairdresser's, a real estate agency and is now a doctor's surgery. I remember the dentist painted everything white. The real estate agency had pictures hung everywhere of places available for sale. Filing cabinets all over the place. I asked one day and they showed me a venetian blind - the portrait was behind that. The portrait just didn't fit in with the business, but they covered it instead of painting over it.

    And now the doctor has removed the blind and we can all see the painting.

    The bloke the painting is of - he died over 20 years ago. He's long gone, few people in town even remember him. But the painting is still there, still valued.

    So you never know...

  4. TerryJ2

    TerryJ2 Well-Known Member

    Argh! Holy cow, NVTs, that is so tragic! Beautiful story.
    You, too, Marg. I love paintings with stories behind them. And to think they kept it but put a Venetian blind behind it!
    I am definitely going back to take more pictures. I've been going over my photos online and they are not as professional as I would like.

    difficult child was up and ready this a.m.--a half hr ago! He's in a good mood and eating up a storm. We're ready to roll!
  5. Fran

    Fran Former desparate mom

    I feel your loss Terry. When we expect our husband to understand our pain and they see it in practical terms we are disappointed.

    I worked on the rental properties at the beach for a few years. got them in tip top shape and had a vibrant business going. After Hurricane Ike, things have been a mess. husband says "sell" like it's just a financial decision. It was my work and I put my heart and a lot of energy to make it a go. I was very disappointed that husband didn't realize how much of me was in the business and how painful it is for me to throw it away. It does make financial sense but I wanted that warm fuzzy too.

    I agree with Marguerite, take lots of pictures and feel your satisfaction of a job well done.
  6. Nomad

    Nomad Guest

    I'm so sorry. Sorry that the restuarant is closing and sorry that your husband doesn't "get it."Can you get into the restaurant and take photos before...its over? Take a million of them. I would make phone calls and do what you can to make that happen...then make a scrap book. Try to think of the memories...hold on to to them. It certainly is a loss...but as best as you are able, be grateful for the fact that you had this unusual and great opportunity and good memories to share with others. (Hugs). I do think in time, your husband will "get it." (Sigh).
  7. DammitJanet

    DammitJanet Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Terry, if you want, take the pics and put them on DVD and send a copy to me by snail mail. I will put them up on a thing like a did for trinity plus send it back on a dvd for you.
  8. TerryJ2

    TerryJ2 Well-Known Member

    That's a thought!
    I'll give it one more try online.

    I can see that many of you have been through similar things. So sad. I don't mind if things change and improve, but this isn't an improvement.
    The good news is, I can always paint more murals. It's "just" one job. (Groan.) To the owner, it's his entire livelihood. I wonder what he will do now?
  9. Star*

    Star* call 911........call 911

    Okay NOT the one with the camels!!!!!!!!! OMG that was GEORGEOUS!!!!!! But then (rolling eyes upward) what would camels be doing in an Italian restaurant??

  10. Marg's Man

    Marg's Man Member

    AS I read your story I thought of the portrait Marg mentioned too.

    Mum had a 'turn' the other day and, on my insistence, I took her to the doctors. I was glad to see the painting of 'Deepwater Bill' was still on the wall. (His name should tell you a little about his character!) Bill was, technically, a vagrant who lived on fish and crayfish caught (illegally in the case of the crays) in the deep waters offshore from our village. He never paid cash for anything but he bartered his catch for the few other things he needed. I never personally met him but there's a twinkle in the eyes of his painting...

    Your murals may still survive; THAT'S my hope.

    Marg's Man
  11. witzend

    witzend Well-Known Member

    That's so hard, especially so that your husband is not understanding your loss. You put a lot of work into that, and it was very personal to you. There will come a time that you can gracefully give an example to him that he will understand. But for now, he's just not there yet.
  12. Steely

    Steely Active Member

    Sending many hugs! I would be devastated too!:sad-very: That is your heart and soul on those walls, and now someone is going to come in and erase it in the blink of an eye.
  13. TerryJ2

    TerryJ2 Well-Known Member

    Thank you all.
    No and yes. The one with-the camels is up for sale and will be painted over. This one has horses, dogs, carts, the Roman Coliseum, and a Venice canal.
    Okay, I've got to figure out how to post the links ...
  14. Lothlorien

    Lothlorien Active Member Staff Member

    I remember those pictures. The mural was beautiful. I'm bummed that they are closing. Surely, your paintings should have kept them open! ::wink:: I get why you're upset. Sorry husband was being a bonehead about it.
  15. TerryJ2

    TerryJ2 Well-Known Member

  16. TerryJ2

    TerryJ2 Well-Known Member

    Good news: I figured out how to post the links.
    Bad news: I'm a crummy photographer.
    Good news: I am going back to shoot more photos.;)
  17. DazedandConfused

    DazedandConfused Active Member

    Oh my! Terry! You are so talented!

    I would be devastated if that were my artwork.

    Take tons of pictures. This recession hoovers.
  18. KTMom91

    KTMom91 Well-Known Member

    Terry, your work is just beautiful. Definitely take more pictures, as many as possible. I'd be upset at the thought of my work being lost as well.