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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 661926" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I think that if you told them that their calls were too much, that they needed to respect your insomnia and only call at certain times, and they continued to ignore your boundaries, then you NEEDED to just stop talking to them.</p><p></p><p>Sometimes friendships simply stop being beneficial and start harming us. If that is the case, then it is perfectly reasonable to end contact. Often the 'friend' will try to pressure us to not cut them off because they get something out of harming us, even if they don't realize it and think they are in some way helping us (of course they are NOT, no matter what their opinion is or how loudly or how often they express their opinion - wrong is wrong regardless of volume or frequency). They get some benefit from harming us, and it is our responsibility to protect ourselves. So ending the friendship is what we have to do. </p><p></p><p>I would not take their calls, not if they give panic attacks. been there done that and still don't always know how to manage the people who cause mine, but I am getting better.</p><p></p><p>You are doing the right thing for YOU and that is a good thing.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 661926, member: 1233"] I think that if you told them that their calls were too much, that they needed to respect your insomnia and only call at certain times, and they continued to ignore your boundaries, then you NEEDED to just stop talking to them. Sometimes friendships simply stop being beneficial and start harming us. If that is the case, then it is perfectly reasonable to end contact. Often the 'friend' will try to pressure us to not cut them off because they get something out of harming us, even if they don't realize it and think they are in some way helping us (of course they are NOT, no matter what their opinion is or how loudly or how often they express their opinion - wrong is wrong regardless of volume or frequency). They get some benefit from harming us, and it is our responsibility to protect ourselves. So ending the friendship is what we have to do. I would not take their calls, not if they give panic attacks. been there done that and still don't always know how to manage the people who cause mine, but I am getting better. You are doing the right thing for YOU and that is a good thing. [/QUOTE]
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