Ok, I'll try not to make this too long. difficult child was sick today so we stayed home. He was very congested so I called pharmicist to see if a certain over-the counter medication was safe with other medications he's on. She said physically it was, but it might make him hyper. I gave it to him anyway because he used to have asthmatic wheezing when he was very young and I was worried about so much congestion. We have our moments sometimes because I'm a single parent and he's getting ready to turn 13 so we have to discuss who's the parent and who's not on occassion. Anyway, I worked on tree decorations since he started the tree last weekend after completing homework. He helped a little to finish it today. Then, I suggested we eat early in the living room and watch a movie and get a good night sleep so he'd feel better going to school tomorrow. Great- and he asked if I'd eat dinner with him. Normally I don't do this during the week because there is so much to do and once I eat, the day is over for me. Then, I fix his plate of food, deliver it to the living room, and ask if everything is ready while I'm fixing my plate. He says yes, except he needs to find the remote control. So, I asked him to look for it where he was just sitting. He tells me he has and "come on". I fix my plate, leave it in the kitchen to see if he's ready to turn the movie on. No, he doesn't know where remote control is. Has he looked? He says so. So I start looking. Here I find wrappers (garbage) from snacks EVERYWHERE- which drives me nuts because he won't put them in the garbage can. Here comes my lecture to him about picking up after himself, he's not 2yo anymore, etc., etc. The whole time I'm looking, he keeps saying "I've already looked there", my dinner is getting cold, THEN I find the remote control at the side of the cushion he'd been sitting in before. So, I toss it on the sofa and make a smart remark about how "he's looked everywhere" and how can I plan to eat with him every day when he needs to be taken care of so much and that we couldn't watch a movie. (Really, I think the restitution I have to pay for his crime spree, the time off work, the efforts I still have made to get him gifts, etc., was getting to me after seeing him make no effort to do anything). So, then he lost it and said then I couldn't watch TV either. (And who's is this and who paid for it??) I walked outside and when I came back in, he was in his bedroom and the new, expensive TV was no longer connected to cable and it's caused by more than a cord being taken off. I told him he had 30 seconds to make a better decision and fix it and he did nothing. This is when I could only think of last Christmas when everything was going well but he couldn't hold it together, and the year before when he first "lost his mind" and became a different person. In my mind, I gave up. I took down the tree and all decorations. I went to his room and told him this Christmas was off. I told him if he didn't get himself up for school tomorrow, on his own, and get to the bus on time, he'd be truant. He made no move. So, I say "here's another effort to scr** your own life up to get back at me". Any thoughts on what should I do now are appreciated.