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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 12524" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Coleen, I agree with you writing it down and making your lists, but do try to present it from the point of view that "you, the school staff, will benefit greatly if you implement these practical strategies." Give them clear guidelines as to what to do in x, y and z situations. Tell them you are there for them if they need practical advice on what to do now to minimise a situation getting out of hand. Tell them that you understand that they won't get it right all the time and mistakes happen, but you will have far more respect for them if they can admit, fast, when they know that have got it wrong, so that the situation can be put right (or as right as possible) as quickly as possible.</p><p></p><p>You need to be a team with the school. They must see this as well and allow you in. Work on getting "Explosive Child" methodology on board and in place. Do not let them off the hook if they try to say that making such huge exceptions for one child is going to send a 'wrong message' to the other children. Tell them to implement it for ALL kids if they don't want to make an exception, but if they do not do this then they are setting themselves up for failure.</p><p></p><p>Teachers, especially those who have been 'out' for a long time, believe nobody can teach them anything. Tell them that their traditional methods are the most successful on the majority of children, but they have been found to actually aggravate problems in a small minority. Your recommendations are based on expert advice and considered observations indicate that 'normal' kids also benefit from this model. The teacher ends up being respected far more and the students become far more personally responsible and independently pursuing learning. (and at this point, take note of any teachers openly scoffing - they're the ones who are going to give you trouble).</p><p></p><p>basically, butter them up, flatter them that they have experience but this kid is not going to fit the way they've done things up until now, he needs different handling. With it, they will succeed. Without it they will waste everybody's time including yours and the child's. It will save time if they take your suggestions on board.</p><p></p><p>Always push the advantage to the school, of following your recommendations (requirements?) You are the expert on this child. Make them respect that. Do a self-esteem course if you need to, but sound like the expert you know yourself to be. If you are asked a question and you're not sure of the answer, say so but add, "I'll do some further research on that topic and get back to you with my considered response." Practice that phrase.</p><p></p><p>And a principal who watches from closed doors and sends down instructions from on high - go knock on the door and walk in. Invite her to a family barbecue. Drop in with totally unrelated matter, such as a page or two of really funny (but fairly clean) jokes from the Internet, especially aimed to make teachers feel good. Make yourself invaluable to her. Find out what she likes and keep her supplied with a snippet of information here and there on the topic. Basically, any difficult person you encounter, go out of your way to win them over. It scares the other staff when you can get on with the stuffy secretatry that nobody else can stand.</p><p></p><p>Good luck. by the way, this can be a fun exercise in studying human nature. Be as cynical as you like about it - inside your head.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 12524, member: 1991"] Coleen, I agree with you writing it down and making your lists, but do try to present it from the point of view that "you, the school staff, will benefit greatly if you implement these practical strategies." Give them clear guidelines as to what to do in x, y and z situations. Tell them you are there for them if they need practical advice on what to do now to minimise a situation getting out of hand. Tell them that you understand that they won't get it right all the time and mistakes happen, but you will have far more respect for them if they can admit, fast, when they know that have got it wrong, so that the situation can be put right (or as right as possible) as quickly as possible. You need to be a team with the school. They must see this as well and allow you in. Work on getting "Explosive Child" methodology on board and in place. Do not let them off the hook if they try to say that making such huge exceptions for one child is going to send a 'wrong message' to the other children. Tell them to implement it for ALL kids if they don't want to make an exception, but if they do not do this then they are setting themselves up for failure. Teachers, especially those who have been 'out' for a long time, believe nobody can teach them anything. Tell them that their traditional methods are the most successful on the majority of children, but they have been found to actually aggravate problems in a small minority. Your recommendations are based on expert advice and considered observations indicate that 'normal' kids also benefit from this model. The teacher ends up being respected far more and the students become far more personally responsible and independently pursuing learning. (and at this point, take note of any teachers openly scoffing - they're the ones who are going to give you trouble). basically, butter them up, flatter them that they have experience but this kid is not going to fit the way they've done things up until now, he needs different handling. With it, they will succeed. Without it they will waste everybody's time including yours and the child's. It will save time if they take your suggestions on board. Always push the advantage to the school, of following your recommendations (requirements?) You are the expert on this child. Make them respect that. Do a self-esteem course if you need to, but sound like the expert you know yourself to be. If you are asked a question and you're not sure of the answer, say so but add, "I'll do some further research on that topic and get back to you with my considered response." Practice that phrase. And a principal who watches from closed doors and sends down instructions from on high - go knock on the door and walk in. Invite her to a family barbecue. Drop in with totally unrelated matter, such as a page or two of really funny (but fairly clean) jokes from the Internet, especially aimed to make teachers feel good. Make yourself invaluable to her. Find out what she likes and keep her supplied with a snippet of information here and there on the topic. Basically, any difficult person you encounter, go out of your way to win them over. It scares the other staff when you can get on with the stuffy secretatry that nobody else can stand. Good luck. by the way, this can be a fun exercise in studying human nature. Be as cynical as you like about it - inside your head. Marg [/QUOTE]
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