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I Love a Narcissist. Now What?
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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 667069" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>This accounts for the feeling that somebody must be getting the facts wrong in my family of origin. The stories can change so much as to be unrecognizable.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Copa, if you are thinking about the time son roared on about your father...that would have been a difficult experience for anyone to have come through unscathed. Son's purposeful actions sent you spinning into emotional flashback.</p><p></p><p>Son should not have done what he did, either. </p><p></p><p>It is hard for me too to find that balance between "I'm the mom." and "I am interacting with an adult male who is responsible for what he says and for the choices he makes."</p><p></p><p>That is where I am now in interacting with my son, I think. I am surprised to uncover anger in me toward him; a filter in my interpretation of him.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>So, these attempts to disparage our kids are part of the abusive patterns of family of origin, too.</p><p></p><p>I am proud and happy for your kids too!</p><p></p><p>I am going to write a paragraph like this one for mine.</p><p></p><p>Sort of like a Family Mission Statement.</p><p></p><p>:O)</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>That is how my mom was with sister's grand, and with brother's grands. </p><p></p><p>She had to know what she was doing too, because she vanished the tire rimming machine the day he talked to her about it.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>This is an interesting observation Serenity. </p><p></p><p>As it always is when I have been so nasty in my posts about them, I miss my mom, today.</p><p></p><p>There was that sense of my mom enjoying the jealousy between the sisters over her. Am I reading things into what my mother says, maybe taking offense where none was intended?</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Yes.</p><p></p><p>Thank you, Serenity.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 667069, member: 17461"] This accounts for the feeling that somebody must be getting the facts wrong in my family of origin. The stories can change so much as to be unrecognizable. Copa, if you are thinking about the time son roared on about your father...that would have been a difficult experience for anyone to have come through unscathed. Son's purposeful actions sent you spinning into emotional flashback. Son should not have done what he did, either. It is hard for me too to find that balance between "I'm the mom." and "I am interacting with an adult male who is responsible for what he says and for the choices he makes." That is where I am now in interacting with my son, I think. I am surprised to uncover anger in me toward him; a filter in my interpretation of him. So, these attempts to disparage our kids are part of the abusive patterns of family of origin, too. I am proud and happy for your kids too! I am going to write a paragraph like this one for mine. Sort of like a Family Mission Statement. :O) That is how my mom was with sister's grand, and with brother's grands. She had to know what she was doing too, because she vanished the tire rimming machine the day he talked to her about it. This is an interesting observation Serenity. As it always is when I have been so nasty in my posts about them, I miss my mom, today. There was that sense of my mom enjoying the jealousy between the sisters over her. Am I reading things into what my mother says, maybe taking offense where none was intended? Yes. Thank you, Serenity. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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