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<blockquote data-quote="Quicksand" data-source="post: 667144" data-attributes="member: 19405"><p>Total shock! as UAW said : we ain't dream in' , this is happening. </p><p>We called hospice before (Dr.gc came back from fishing ) and I explained that she was refusing to give the medications, I asked them not to say I called. The nurse happened to have some papers that needed to be signed,so that was her excuse.she came over that night. She talked to him and us about not worrying about using the medicine any time he wanted it and that they could get whatever he needed and the nurse gave him a dose. The nurse left the room and my mother followed her out then I went after. They were in the kitchen and my mother was going on about how she was a nurse and blah,blah the patients she dealt with and I do believe she hoodwinked the hospice nurse because the nurse left and that was that. My mother can put on a great show. </p><p>My mother & dr GC plan was a nursing home for him. UAW and I (without realizing it at the time) threw a wrench in the plan by saying- we will come to Florida as long as needed, do whatever needs to be done, he always said he didn't want to be in a nursing home. We said: ma, we'd do the same for you. </p><p>how could she say, nah, I'd rather he be in a nursing home, thanks anyway.</p><p>We had her cornered and she was mad as hell. ( I know this now).</p><p></p><p>I've felt guilty my whole life. It's the strangest feeling to sit and think about why I feel guilty and why I can't forgive myself but to not know what I need to forgive myself for. It's because I was raised by her and she had a way of making you feel like any emotions were a bother or ridiculous and daughters were competition. I dunno exactly...Those couple of weeks down there opened my eyes. My husband has sad for years: your family is here- he and the kids- but I could never shake her from my head. I'd freak out when they were coming to town, get mean and obsessively clean my house so it was perfect for her and I became just like her. My god, the time and emotions wasted and stress put on my family just to try to be perfect for her. </p><p>I'm done with that now. </p><p></p><p>UAW is a little rough around the edges... He said: two turds flushed down the toilet... </p><p> </p><p></p><p></p><p>Have a good night. Thanks for the ears and the hearts.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Quicksand, post: 667144, member: 19405"] Total shock! as UAW said : we ain't dream in' , this is happening. We called hospice before (Dr.gc came back from fishing ) and I explained that she was refusing to give the medications, I asked them not to say I called. The nurse happened to have some papers that needed to be signed,so that was her excuse.she came over that night. She talked to him and us about not worrying about using the medicine any time he wanted it and that they could get whatever he needed and the nurse gave him a dose. The nurse left the room and my mother followed her out then I went after. They were in the kitchen and my mother was going on about how she was a nurse and blah,blah the patients she dealt with and I do believe she hoodwinked the hospice nurse because the nurse left and that was that. My mother can put on a great show. My mother & dr GC plan was a nursing home for him. UAW and I (without realizing it at the time) threw a wrench in the plan by saying- we will come to Florida as long as needed, do whatever needs to be done, he always said he didn't want to be in a nursing home. We said: ma, we'd do the same for you. how could she say, nah, I'd rather he be in a nursing home, thanks anyway. We had her cornered and she was mad as hell. ( I know this now). I've felt guilty my whole life. It's the strangest feeling to sit and think about why I feel guilty and why I can't forgive myself but to not know what I need to forgive myself for. It's because I was raised by her and she had a way of making you feel like any emotions were a bother or ridiculous and daughters were competition. I dunno exactly...Those couple of weeks down there opened my eyes. My husband has sad for years: your family is here- he and the kids- but I could never shake her from my head. I'd freak out when they were coming to town, get mean and obsessively clean my house so it was perfect for her and I became just like her. My god, the time and emotions wasted and stress put on my family just to try to be perfect for her. I'm done with that now. UAW is a little rough around the edges... He said: two turds flushed down the toilet... Have a good night. Thanks for the ears and the hearts. [/QUOTE]
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