You ever hear the saying that a little knowlege can be dangerous? That saying can apply to my sister. I know that she means well, but I have to say that she truly will NEVER understand what being the mother of a difficult child is like, even though she deal with these kids all day long as a Special Education teacher. I was telling her that difficult child has only been off from school for two weeks and is already complaining that he is very bored, which is partially his own fault because he refuses to do anything, but that's another story for another day. I was telling her that difficult child holds a great deal of resentment towards easy child. difficult child thinks that easy child gets all of the attention because he's younger and cuter, so he will behave badly to get attention in order to take it away from easy child. So, sister jumps all over me. "You have to get that kid under control. He's going to have a hard time later in life. Life doesn't work the way he seems to think it does and you have to make him understand that. Have you spoken to his doctor about this? You know that he needs to know that, right?" Just what I need. Another person heaping blame in me. Ummmmm...did she think that that idea never occured to me? Talk to his doctor? Does she think that I haven't done that, weekly at times, when I think that there are things going on that the psychiatrist and therapist need to know? She's only been told a thousand times what we are doing for him, the steps we have take, the lengths that we go to for him. It's not like I'm sitting here on my hand doing nothing and saying that it's a phase and he'll grow out of it. Good heavens, I've been trying to deal with this kid and his problems since he was 6! And despite his ongoing difficulties, he has gotten better. Then I get to hear about my "perfect" niece. That makes me feel loads better. I know that alot of us deal with people who just never get it. It's so frustrating.