I miss my daughter.

Discussion in 'Parent Emeritus' started by dashcat, Aug 16, 2011.

  1. dashcat

    dashcat Member

    She runs hot and cold with me and I guess it's time for a cold spell.

    It turns out the Pizza Hut job is legit - at least it's legit that she works there as a driver ...not a full time server with benefits ...but at least the whole thing wasn't made up.

    Haven't heard from her in a week ...yet she's only 1.5 blocks away. Last time I saw her was good -we'd gone to lunch and she was supposed to get back to me about having dinner with a friend of hers and a friend of mine on Sat - never returned my calls about that.

    I'm giving her space ...which is what I always do during these cold spells...but it just makes me sad.

    I was looking at scrapbooks last night and wondering what ever happened to that happy little girl.

    Thanks for listening..

    Last edited: Aug 16, 2011
  2. AnnieO

    AnnieO Shooting from the Hip

  3. KTMom91

    KTMom91 Well-Known Member

    Hugs, dash.
  4. Hound dog

    Hound dog Nana's are Beautiful


    Hopefully a hot spell is just around the corner.
  5. CrazyinVA

    CrazyinVA Well-Known Member Staff Member

    I understand. Hang in there...
  6. troubled

    troubled Guest

    At least you know she's working and that will keep her busy doing something productive. I know your pain, too ((HUGS)).
  7. Nancy

    Nancy Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Aw Dash, I'm sorry you're feeling sad. Like troubled said at least you know she's working and she's safe. But our mommy hearts hurt anyway.

    Maybe it's time to meet for lunch again.

  8. DDD

    DDD Well-Known Member

    Just had a short power outage and lost my post. I'm sorry you are in a cold spell. Maybe she feels it is necessary to get some distance in order to move toward maturity? Could be. Meanwhile I understand. Who would have thought parenting adults would be so darn hard! Hugs. DDD
  9. dashcat

    dashcat Member

    I am grateful she's working and i know she's reasonably safe (as safe as agfg can be at any given time).

    I miss her, but - honestly - it's more about missing seeing/talking to her. I miss who she was ...and the potential for who she might have been ... before her safe little world unraveled.

    I miss the young teen who babysat, who had friends, who loved going to youth group at church, who sang her heart out, who loved school and her family.

    I know this sadness will pass. I suspect it has a bit to do with the kids going back to school. I see her friends heading off to their first college apartments, with memories of a summer internship behind them. And I see her posting on Tumblr about smoking pot and hating the m***********rs in her life.

    (and, Nancy, I'd love that!)
  10. Rabbit

    Rabbit Member

    sending hugs Rabbit
  11. ThreeShadows

    ThreeShadows Quid me anxia?

    Hugs, Dash! Things will improve, she needs to realize that she had it good. It sure does hurt while they're trying to figure it out.
  12. elizabrary

    elizabrary Member

    Sorry Dash! I go through the same thing with mine. And even though she's here right now, I miss her. Just like you I miss the great kid she was and I wonder whatever happened to that wonderful girl. It's heartbreaking! I'm feeling your pain! :(
  13. PatriotsGirl

    PatriotsGirl Guest

    (((HUGS))) I have been and am right there with you.

    I miss mine, too. Not only do I miss the kid she used to be or the woman I had hoped she would grow up to be, I miss her.
  14. susiestar

    susiestar Roll With It

    ((((((((((hugs)))))))))) I miss Wiz a lot too. He won't call us. Seems to have decided he isn't part of us anymore. So I celebrate his successes when I hear of them and offer to do what I can and enjoy my other two. SOme parts of parenting are just the worst.
  15. Mom2oddson

    Mom2oddson Active Member

    My heart goes out to you Dash. It's so hard. It's been over a year since Steph has talked to us. We hear how she's doing from family because she will talk/visit her Aunts/Uncles. If it wasn't for them, we wouldn't even know if she was alive. I've had to build up such a strong wall around my heart in order to survive. Yet, the pain still comes through when I think about her.

    Many Hugs.
  16. Bean

    Bean Member

    I'm with you very much. With all of you and your pain. I'm at work having a hard time. Put in my iPod to keep my mind busy, but the music just made it worse, actually.
  17. PatriotsGirl

    PatriotsGirl Guest

    Bean - don't you hate that?? I will do that on my way home from work and a song will come on that makes me want to bawl my eyes out thinking about her! :(

    Butterfly Kisses is a really bad one for that though I love the song. Oh, and Hallelujah. Yeah, that is another one. Gets me every time.
  18. Bean

    Bean Member

    Yup. Exactly. This one wasn't even terribly sappy. But it just totally kicked me in the gut.
  19. dashcat

    dashcat Member

    Oh, yes, the music. Sometimes it's just one of the songs we used to sing to in the car, but the tears just flow. Hang on tight, Bean. I read your thread. We all hurt for our kids.