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<blockquote data-quote="TypoJEnny" data-source="post: 66096" data-attributes="member: 3977"><p>Thanks for the quick replies and the support. I have checked out Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) and in the past we have talked to P-DR about this disorder. Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) and All forums of Autism has been rule out however Attachment Disorder has been indicated. But the main focus has been the CD, ODD and ADHD. It got the point at his day treatment facility that the Administrator said "Let's not worry about the labels, let's just work on the biggest problems". Yeah, that worked! (I'm a little bitter about this). They are the ones that after 6 months told me they didn't feel he should have been there from day one. (he had them snowed, he can and will be on his best behavior when he knows someone else is watching)</p><p></p><p>At one point every time he started to rage I would grab the video camera and start taping. He would turn into the perfect little boy the minute the red light came on. It amazes me that he can turn it on and off with the push of a button. I wish his class room had a video camera then maybe he would "perform" well in class. He is extremely intelligent. </p><p></p><p>He scores at an 11th grade level on his standardized tests. But he refuses to do the class work and misses out on the small details. I don't understand how he can score so high on the tests but can't sit down with a pencil and write a paragraph. He can't construct a proper sentence. His hand writing was at a 2nd grade level and the school refused to teach him cursive. They are still having him write in print and they have put into his IEP that he can give verbal answers or use a computer to type his answers. </p><p></p><p>At home, I have worked with him and he can print and write in cursive properly. But at school he refuses to do this because he now knows that he doesn't have to. He knows that if he just scribbles in the space his teacher will take him aside and give him the work verbally and he gets extra one on one time with the teacher. I tried to explain what he was doing to the teachers but they told me it is easier to send him to his Learning Disability (LD) class and have that teacher go over his work with him and grade it. He is going to a different school this year and I hope we work out a better arrangement. I don't feel that taking the "easy" way out is right. I don't feel that it is teaching him to be a better person. I feel that it is teaching him a better way to manipulate people.</p><p></p><p>Okay, I got on another soap box. We are going to meet the teacher today and I'm worried sick about how it will turn out. I couldn't even sleep last night because of how worried I am about this new school. IF it doesnt work out then he will have to go to a 24/7 care facility. This is our last chance. Should I hope that he "performs" well? I just don't know who my real kid is anymore. I think I catch pieces of him every now and then but then it's gone. I know inside my little boy is a sweet caring and empathic person. I have to believe that. I have to believe that all humans are good at heart. IF not it would break mine.</p><p></p><p>Thanks again for the support,</p><p>Jen</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TypoJEnny, post: 66096, member: 3977"] Thanks for the quick replies and the support. I have checked out Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) and in the past we have talked to P-DR about this disorder. Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) and All forums of Autism has been rule out however Attachment Disorder has been indicated. But the main focus has been the CD, ODD and ADHD. It got the point at his day treatment facility that the Administrator said "Let's not worry about the labels, let's just work on the biggest problems". Yeah, that worked! (I'm a little bitter about this). They are the ones that after 6 months told me they didn't feel he should have been there from day one. (he had them snowed, he can and will be on his best behavior when he knows someone else is watching) At one point every time he started to rage I would grab the video camera and start taping. He would turn into the perfect little boy the minute the red light came on. It amazes me that he can turn it on and off with the push of a button. I wish his class room had a video camera then maybe he would "perform" well in class. He is extremely intelligent. He scores at an 11th grade level on his standardized tests. But he refuses to do the class work and misses out on the small details. I don't understand how he can score so high on the tests but can't sit down with a pencil and write a paragraph. He can't construct a proper sentence. His hand writing was at a 2nd grade level and the school refused to teach him cursive. They are still having him write in print and they have put into his IEP that he can give verbal answers or use a computer to type his answers. At home, I have worked with him and he can print and write in cursive properly. But at school he refuses to do this because he now knows that he doesn't have to. He knows that if he just scribbles in the space his teacher will take him aside and give him the work verbally and he gets extra one on one time with the teacher. I tried to explain what he was doing to the teachers but they told me it is easier to send him to his Learning Disability (LD) class and have that teacher go over his work with him and grade it. He is going to a different school this year and I hope we work out a better arrangement. I don't feel that taking the "easy" way out is right. I don't feel that it is teaching him to be a better person. I feel that it is teaching him a better way to manipulate people. Okay, I got on another soap box. We are going to meet the teacher today and I'm worried sick about how it will turn out. I couldn't even sleep last night because of how worried I am about this new school. IF it doesnt work out then he will have to go to a 24/7 care facility. This is our last chance. Should I hope that he "performs" well? I just don't know who my real kid is anymore. I think I catch pieces of him every now and then but then it's gone. I know inside my little boy is a sweet caring and empathic person. I have to believe that. I have to believe that all humans are good at heart. IF not it would break mine. Thanks again for the support, Jen [/QUOTE]
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