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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 658105" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I would not text or talk to this daughter again unless it is to say I hope you're doing well.</p><p></p><p>That kind of verbal abuse is unacceptable and very sadly there is nothing you can do to make her let you see your grandchild. Perhaps therapy will help you learn to cope and accept that your daughter is sick and you can't change her.</p><p></p><p>You WILL get through this. We are all here to help you. You should die for NOBODY, not this daughter especially. You do have another grandchild. You will ever forget your there year old, but do fawn all your love upon the one you CAN see without the drama and threat of losing him/her. Also, pleae,please be good to YOU and don't live yourself for your c hild or grandchildren. If you do that, there is no guarantee of happiness. You can't control others. You should in my opinion make yourself happy by doing the things you love with people who love and respect your good heart.</p><p></p><p>I can not emphasize enough how lethal your daughter's tirades are to you. I have stopped reading anything that comes my way that is abusive. And I'm much better off because of it. Were you the one whose daughter may be borderline? If so, there is no reason to believe s he will ever change and it is best to get the help you need, to stay here with us so we can love ya, and to learn how to cope and to move on. You can't control the hate that comes from her. She is deliberately trying to destroy you. Don't let her do it.</p><p></p><p>Set boundaries about what you will read from or listen to from her and make ti clear that if she is abusive to you, you will gently hang up the phone or delete the text before you finish reading it. Then do it. And be strong. Yes, I know, it's hard, but we have to do it for them as well as us. It isn't good for your daughter to get away with abusing her own mother. She needs to know there are ways to stop her from doing that.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 658105, member: 1550"] I would not text or talk to this daughter again unless it is to say I hope you're doing well. That kind of verbal abuse is unacceptable and very sadly there is nothing you can do to make her let you see your grandchild. Perhaps therapy will help you learn to cope and accept that your daughter is sick and you can't change her. You WILL get through this. We are all here to help you. You should die for NOBODY, not this daughter especially. You do have another grandchild. You will ever forget your there year old, but do fawn all your love upon the one you CAN see without the drama and threat of losing him/her. Also, pleae,please be good to YOU and don't live yourself for your c hild or grandchildren. If you do that, there is no guarantee of happiness. You can't control others. You should in my opinion make yourself happy by doing the things you love with people who love and respect your good heart. I can not emphasize enough how lethal your daughter's tirades are to you. I have stopped reading anything that comes my way that is abusive. And I'm much better off because of it. Were you the one whose daughter may be borderline? If so, there is no reason to believe s he will ever change and it is best to get the help you need, to stay here with us so we can love ya, and to learn how to cope and to move on. You can't control the hate that comes from her. She is deliberately trying to destroy you. Don't let her do it. Set boundaries about what you will read from or listen to from her and make ti clear that if she is abusive to you, you will gently hang up the phone or delete the text before you finish reading it. Then do it. And be strong. Yes, I know, it's hard, but we have to do it for them as well as us. It isn't good for your daughter to get away with abusing her own mother. She needs to know there are ways to stop her from doing that. [/QUOTE]
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