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<blockquote data-quote="Albatross" data-source="post: 646277" data-attributes="member: 17720"><p>S&S, it sounds like your daughter certainly has a lot to deal with, with the pain of suicides that she has had to deal with. But it sounds like she was dealing well with that and finding purpose in reaching out, then stopped. Why do you think that is?</p><p></p><p>Between the isolation and the timing of her home time to make sure you don't see her, the first thing that jumped out at me is drugs. I'm not against young adults having some fun partying. It's not the clubbing into the wee hours that is the problem, it's the not meeting her own needs. If she is 20 and isn't paying her own cell phone and car insurance, I think it's time to think about making some changes. You can't change her, but you can change how much of her behavior you are willing to condone.</p><p></p><p>Sadly, many of our adult kids will gladly not work and allow us to pay their bills for as long as we are willing to do it. </p><p></p><p>I think your February deadline is a good one. What will you do if she does not start making enough $ to pay her cell phone and car insurance by that date?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Albatross, post: 646277, member: 17720"] S&S, it sounds like your daughter certainly has a lot to deal with, with the pain of suicides that she has had to deal with. But it sounds like she was dealing well with that and finding purpose in reaching out, then stopped. Why do you think that is? Between the isolation and the timing of her home time to make sure you don't see her, the first thing that jumped out at me is drugs. I'm not against young adults having some fun partying. It's not the clubbing into the wee hours that is the problem, it's the not meeting her own needs. If she is 20 and isn't paying her own cell phone and car insurance, I think it's time to think about making some changes. You can't change her, but you can change how much of her behavior you are willing to condone. Sadly, many of our adult kids will gladly not work and allow us to pay their bills for as long as we are willing to do it. I think your February deadline is a good one. What will you do if she does not start making enough $ to pay her cell phone and car insurance by that date? [/QUOTE]
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