ok I think that I have definately made up my mind that I have to get difficult child out, Now I just need the courage because I know that if is going to be a "knck down- drag out" to get him out of my car when I drive him down there.Where do I get the strength? I keep asking him to clean his room and bathroom, bring my entire kithcen of dishes back to the dam kitchen so that I have something to eat off of and with and other odds and ends and he keeps telling me he knows what his responsibilities are and as long as I nag him about things. I told him that we would take him to get this problem fixed with him getting a speeding ticket and a ticket for having no drivers license but he keeps putting it off. I think that he is afraid of what is going to happen but I tell him that the longer he waits the worse it gets but he thinks he knows everything. I know that he did the right thing by driving that day because the "friend" he was with was drunk and I told him that he just needs to tell that to the judge -yes there are probably be fines. He doesn't have a license because he was in foster care during the time and when he came home, we had to do all kinds of extra tests and stuff for him to get his license which cost us a lot of money so it has been a slow process. He expects us to pay to tickets, get his license buy him a car and do it NOW! I am trying hard to help him but he keeps being defiant and disrespectful. I am to the point that I want to have him pack a bag and drop him off at the homeless shelter and tell him call me when you fell like you can live by MY rules in MY home. One thing that hur us is that whne he got arrrested this last time the police officer told him that they can not make them leave if the live here and have no where to go. Now he uses that against me--just the other night he was fighting with me ans was egging me on to cal the cops because he said " you know they can't make me leave- I would like to see them try". I am over my limit and want to take back my house but I am also afraid. If he will destroy my house while living here what is going to happen if I kick him out?