I'm Hangin' on by a Thread
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I am havng a hard time typing through tears....so bear with me.
I just got an email from my 16 year old (difficult child #1).
a littl background for those who don't know me - or remember what happened:
My two boys have to be separated from each other because of something that happened between them almost three years ago. Since then I have only been able to see my older son a few times - because I have my younger son 24/7/365 - HIS father hasn't seen HIM in 8 years. My older son now lives with my ex - who is (pardon my french) an a--hole. My ex refuses to drive my son to my house because - in his words - "the non-custodial parent should do ALL the driving back and forth". I don't have a vehicle or driver's license - because I have fallen asleep while driving. My ex just thinks I am being lazy. I haven't spoken one word to this "man" since before the incident. Then - I had to move about an hour away from them last year because of my health problems and being unable to work. My family (mother and sister) are no help at all.
Anyway - I have been able to keep in contact with my older son through telephone and email. BUT - my ex uses these things as punishment. He takes away my son's cell phone and computer privilidges whenever my son doesn't do his chores. They no longer have a home phone because they both have had the cell phones.
My son hasn't had his cell phone for several months now. I just got an email from him saying that he is about to lose his computer for "a long time" because he was playing games instead of "doing his work". Today was the first day of his summer vacation!!!! And his "work" was probably cleaning up after his piggy father.
I NEED to be able to communicate with my son. Are there laws about one parent keeping a child from the other one? Where do I start? My son sounded so sad in his email - wishing that he could change himself. I miss him so much.
I really need help with this one.
Amy
I just got an email from my 16 year old (difficult child #1).
a littl background for those who don't know me - or remember what happened:
My two boys have to be separated from each other because of something that happened between them almost three years ago. Since then I have only been able to see my older son a few times - because I have my younger son 24/7/365 - HIS father hasn't seen HIM in 8 years. My older son now lives with my ex - who is (pardon my french) an a--hole. My ex refuses to drive my son to my house because - in his words - "the non-custodial parent should do ALL the driving back and forth". I don't have a vehicle or driver's license - because I have fallen asleep while driving. My ex just thinks I am being lazy. I haven't spoken one word to this "man" since before the incident. Then - I had to move about an hour away from them last year because of my health problems and being unable to work. My family (mother and sister) are no help at all.
Anyway - I have been able to keep in contact with my older son through telephone and email. BUT - my ex uses these things as punishment. He takes away my son's cell phone and computer privilidges whenever my son doesn't do his chores. They no longer have a home phone because they both have had the cell phones.
My son hasn't had his cell phone for several months now. I just got an email from him saying that he is about to lose his computer for "a long time" because he was playing games instead of "doing his work". Today was the first day of his summer vacation!!!! And his "work" was probably cleaning up after his piggy father.
I NEED to be able to communicate with my son. Are there laws about one parent keeping a child from the other one? Where do I start? My son sounded so sad in his email - wishing that he could change himself. I miss him so much.
I really need help with this one.
Amy