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I need help - cannot live the abuse from my 18 yr old daughter
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 640492" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>My daughter changed her life too, after we made her leave and she moved out of state to live with her straight arrow brother.</p><p></p><p>I don't think I could live with that sort of abuse day after day. You have to decide if it is worth it to house and pay for her while she is behaving this way and, if not, explore your options. Some of us have made our grown children leave...some have been homeless, but they survived. Some keep the grown kids at home. It is what you can handle. It is important to think about your own health and happiness now that you have raised your daughter to maturity. She knows right from wrong and can certainly get an entry level job and rent a room in somebody's house if she does not want to be homeless. If not, there is help in the community for her. Her life choices are now up to her.</p><p></p><p>I agree that rehab only works if the person is motivated and wants it.</p><p></p><p>Are you in any sort of therapy? If not, I highly recommend it. Does she hit you? If so, then in my opinion it is mandatory that you take care of your physical safety and make her leave. At the very least, I'd call the police when it happened. That is really not ok, not for any reason. Borderline personality disorder, full blown, can be dangerous to live with. But if the person wants to change and is willing to work hard, the person can change. Your daughter does not seem to want to do that yet. IF she ever does, there is dialectal behavioral therapy, which was created strictly for borderline, which was once seen as untreatable. But it is treatable and there is a good book out for those who love somebody with borderline. I will paste the link.</p><p></p><p><a href="http://www.amazon.com/s/?ie=UTF8&keywords=walking+eggshells+borderline&tag=googhydr-20&index=aps&hvadid=29418379998&hvpos=1t1&hvexid=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=344664217186097387&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=b&hvdev=c&ref=pd_sl_8e1x3h1i72_b" target="_blank">http://www.amazon.com/s/?ie=UTF8&keywords=walking+eggshells+borderline&tag=googhydr-20&index=aps&hvadid=29418379998&hvpos=1t1&hvexid=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=344664217186097387&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=b&hvdev=c&ref=pd_sl_8e1x3h1i72_b</a></p><p></p><p>Hugs for your hurting heart.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 640492, member: 1550"] My daughter changed her life too, after we made her leave and she moved out of state to live with her straight arrow brother. I don't think I could live with that sort of abuse day after day. You have to decide if it is worth it to house and pay for her while she is behaving this way and, if not, explore your options. Some of us have made our grown children leave...some have been homeless, but they survived. Some keep the grown kids at home. It is what you can handle. It is important to think about your own health and happiness now that you have raised your daughter to maturity. She knows right from wrong and can certainly get an entry level job and rent a room in somebody's house if she does not want to be homeless. If not, there is help in the community for her. Her life choices are now up to her. I agree that rehab only works if the person is motivated and wants it. Are you in any sort of therapy? If not, I highly recommend it. Does she hit you? If so, then in my opinion it is mandatory that you take care of your physical safety and make her leave. At the very least, I'd call the police when it happened. That is really not ok, not for any reason. Borderline personality disorder, full blown, can be dangerous to live with. But if the person wants to change and is willing to work hard, the person can change. Your daughter does not seem to want to do that yet. IF she ever does, there is dialectal behavioral therapy, which was created strictly for borderline, which was once seen as untreatable. But it is treatable and there is a good book out for those who love somebody with borderline. I will paste the link. [url]http://www.amazon.com/s/?ie=UTF8&keywords=walking+eggshells+borderline&tag=googhydr-20&index=aps&hvadid=29418379998&hvpos=1t1&hvexid=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=344664217186097387&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=b&hvdev=c&ref=pd_sl_8e1x3h1i72_b[/url] Hugs for your hurting heart. [/QUOTE]
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