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I need help - cannot live the abuse from my 18 yr old daughter
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<blockquote data-quote="2much2recover" data-source="post: 640575" data-attributes="member: 18366"><p>Please realize that personality disorders are somewhat different than mental health issues in that while mental health can be treated a person's <em>PERSONALITY </em>is highly unlikely to change. My saying: Personality change would be as if an honest hardworking, peaceful and kind person tried to change their own personality to be mean and hateful, harmful to others. The good news is when Borderline is the diagnosis, there is at least a chance that it may burn itself out <em>later</em> in life. In your daughters case you seem to be dealing with both, and yes it is quite painful for the person that is being victimized by the mentally ill/disordered person. It will take you time to accept that you did not cause this and can not fix it. Until then, at least you might start to entertain the idea that you are a <em>VICTIM </em>of Domestic Violence. Many people assume they are only involved in a domestic violent relationship if it is partner violence. (boyfriend/husband- girlfriend/wife) In that situation we can choose to leave them forever and never allow that person back in our lives. Admittedly, we moms have a much harder time kicking our abusive kids to the curb. Having said that I hope that you come to understand that you are being victimized and seek the help in your community available to ALL domestic violence victims. I am so sorry that you are going through this right now and I know from experience just how much it sucks to be victimized by your own child!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="2much2recover, post: 640575, member: 18366"] Please realize that personality disorders are somewhat different than mental health issues in that while mental health can be treated a person's [I]PERSONALITY [/I]is highly unlikely to change. My saying: Personality change would be as if an honest hardworking, peaceful and kind person tried to change their own personality to be mean and hateful, harmful to others. The good news is when Borderline is the diagnosis, there is at least a chance that it may burn itself out [I]later[/I] in life. In your daughters case you seem to be dealing with both, and yes it is quite painful for the person that is being victimized by the mentally ill/disordered person. It will take you time to accept that you did not cause this and can not fix it. Until then, at least you might start to entertain the idea that you are a [I]VICTIM [/I]of Domestic Violence. Many people assume they are only involved in a domestic violent relationship if it is partner violence. (boyfriend/husband- girlfriend/wife) In that situation we can choose to leave them forever and never allow that person back in our lives. Admittedly, we moms have a much harder time kicking our abusive kids to the curb. Having said that I hope that you come to understand that you are being victimized and seek the help in your community available to ALL domestic violence victims. I am so sorry that you are going through this right now and I know from experience just how much it sucks to be victimized by your own child! [/QUOTE]
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