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I need help - cannot live the abuse from my 18 yr old daughter
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<blockquote data-quote="Lioness" data-source="post: 650059" data-attributes="member: 18827"><p>OMG! Your daughter sounds just like mine! I feel so sad for you I totally understand how you feel. Its so hard living with a child that you love, treating you like that. I know because I lived like that for 12 years from the age of 12 to 24 my daughter behaved like that towards me. She was always highly strung as a child, and over indulged by her Dad who left us for his secretary when my daughter was 12 years of age. My daughter then hated me with a vengeance. She swore at me, screeched in my face, slammed doors, punched me and once even threw me through a glass table. At times I was scared and hated her behaviour. I found it hard to cope. Her father didn't bother with the kids for a long time. He never helped me with them, and got on with his new life. She missed him so much, and even when he admitted it was all his fault she still hated me. I had two other children, who were neglected as she took up so much of my time. She is now 28 and for the last 5 years has been good with me. Ever since she left home, we get on much better albeit on a superficial level. I love her so much, but am wary of her. I do anything for her, and at the drop of a hat it is always me who helps her, all emergencies are dealt with by me. Her Dad is still l not there for her. Yet she respects him more than me. I think she was suffering but always rejected any counselling help. She is now getting counselling and I was very happy about this, until her old ways reared up at me and she is now lashing out at me again. Its like she is 12 years old again, and I am devastated. I was a good mother who made mistakes, but I always put my children first. Yes i shouted back at times and got angry with sheer frustration when she was younger. But I too was suffering looking after 3 young children alone. I did my best, but it was never enough. Her negativity is so draining. She wants me to apologise, but what for? I hope your daughter gets the help sooner rather than later so that you two can have a better relationship. My daughter resisted any help, I wish i was stronger. I wish you all the luck and good wishes. Stay strong you need to look after yourself. Maybe you need some counselling too. OR mediation for the two of you. I wish I had the money, I would try to go to family mediation with my daughter.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lioness, post: 650059, member: 18827"] OMG! Your daughter sounds just like mine! I feel so sad for you I totally understand how you feel. Its so hard living with a child that you love, treating you like that. I know because I lived like that for 12 years from the age of 12 to 24 my daughter behaved like that towards me. She was always highly strung as a child, and over indulged by her Dad who left us for his secretary when my daughter was 12 years of age. My daughter then hated me with a vengeance. She swore at me, screeched in my face, slammed doors, punched me and once even threw me through a glass table. At times I was scared and hated her behaviour. I found it hard to cope. Her father didn't bother with the kids for a long time. He never helped me with them, and got on with his new life. She missed him so much, and even when he admitted it was all his fault she still hated me. I had two other children, who were neglected as she took up so much of my time. She is now 28 and for the last 5 years has been good with me. Ever since she left home, we get on much better albeit on a superficial level. I love her so much, but am wary of her. I do anything for her, and at the drop of a hat it is always me who helps her, all emergencies are dealt with by me. Her Dad is still l not there for her. Yet she respects him more than me. I think she was suffering but always rejected any counselling help. She is now getting counselling and I was very happy about this, until her old ways reared up at me and she is now lashing out at me again. Its like she is 12 years old again, and I am devastated. I was a good mother who made mistakes, but I always put my children first. Yes i shouted back at times and got angry with sheer frustration when she was younger. But I too was suffering looking after 3 young children alone. I did my best, but it was never enough. Her negativity is so draining. She wants me to apologise, but what for? I hope your daughter gets the help sooner rather than later so that you two can have a better relationship. My daughter resisted any help, I wish i was stronger. I wish you all the luck and good wishes. Stay strong you need to look after yourself. Maybe you need some counselling too. OR mediation for the two of you. I wish I had the money, I would try to go to family mediation with my daughter. [/QUOTE]
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