No, I am not the mother in this situation. But just the same, my mother and father need help dealing with this. My sister who is 23 years old has always suffered from anxiety and panic attacks since a young child. Currently she is living at home with my mother and father and is totally destructive and compulsively lying and acting out sexually and abusing the xanax that she's been prescribed to help with her anxiety. She is beautiful but has a very low self-esteem. She lies about everything... gets caught in a web... lies to try to cover that and so on. She lies to men so that she constantly has more than one, most of the time more than three all thinking they are the only ones. Lies to her friends, drinks obsessively all the while taking as many as 6-9 xanax at a time and acting as someone would who is all doped up on alcohol and benzo's. My mother is not quite in denial, I think she fully understands the problem at hand but is unwilling to do anything as she feels that her hands are tied. She comes in and out of the house all hours of the night... she doesn't work or go to school. She lives by going to the bars, flirting with men to get things, and lying to cover up from getting caught doing the things that she's doing. She shows absolutely no respect for our parents, cursing at them, even masturbating loudly while on the phone with a random guy when my mother and father are on the other side of the wall (the house is not big--she knows they can hear her)! I'm worried about my parents as my mother has a heart condition and because of the current living conditions is constantly stressed to the hilt, and my father is constantly battling depression, I feel because he doesn't know what to do. When I've suggested that my parents ask her to leave the home because of her self-destructiveness and lack of respect, they get upset and say they can't because she's their child and they fear the worst because she'd have nowhere to go. Short of asking her to leave or committing her to some sort of institution where she can recieve help I don't know what can be done. My parents wont ask for help. My sister has been in therapy which consequently resulted in her receiving xanax for her anxiety attacks. But she is so used to compulsively lying to get what she wants and is so good at it that I can only imagine what she has said to her therapist to gain her support. I have noticed on my own that she is not using the xanax for supposed anxiety attacks or situations that could envoke a panic attack but for the purpose of numbing herself when put in situations that being sober, she would not feel comfortable. For example, she loads up on alcohol and xanax before going to the bar and then proceeds to flirt with numerous guys for drinks or to go home with her then, when turned down, gets very angry and acts like a fool. I am lost and bewildered, hence the name. What can I do? I'm afraid I'll be burying my parents soon, if not from health conditions at the hands of my own sister because honestly I don't know what she is capable of. Please offer any advice you can... I, myself, am at my wits end. I am the older sister by 5 years and have a family of my own. I love my sister and I know that she is capable of being more than what she is now. But she wont talk to me, honestly, she lies to me too.