This is a sticky and tricky situation and I really dont have a clue how to handle it. As you know my Dad just died the beginning of this month. He was married to my step-mother for almost 26 years. Now I guess she really wasnt a step mom to me because I was well over 18 when they married so she didnt raise me and her kids were over 18 too when they married so there was never any parenting of younger kids. In fact, Pat, his wife, used to be my mom's best friend and I knew her pretty well and I knew her middle son very well and in fact, actually slept with him once! yeah...wild huh? Well...now we come to the gritty details...ya know the will and all that stuff. I dont know how to deal with this, ask about it, or anything without seeming like I am a vulture. So far as I was leaving her house to come home that day of the funeral she handed me a clock that I had given him a few years ago that he had loved and a picture of his ship in Okinawa. She also told me that he has a CD at a bank set up in my name but didnt give me any details. I also heard in passing while they were making the arrangements for the number of death certificates to order, that there were 3 life insurance policies. Now knowing my father like I do, this man has a will and he would have spelled things out in stone. I mean he actually planned his funeral down to the flowers 15 years ago. Bought the plot, the casket...everything. Even put in the order form to tell my family that he got the pecan casket because he loved getting our pecans all those years. Thats how detailed he was. How do I ask about the will and the details? How do I ask about any of my Dad's little "things" I would like to have. Also, he promised us his pick-up truck. Its 20 years old. Actually 22. 89 Toyota. Also promised Tony his wood working tools that he has in his tool shed. He bought a bunch of pretty nice stuff to build bird houses and such when he stopped working but his emphysema kept him from being able to do much with it. He always told Tony that would be how Tony could make a living when Tony retired. Now I have no idea if Pat will keep those promises or not. I dont know if my Dad put that stuff in the will or not. Wouldnt I have to be there at the reading seeing as how I am his only child? Pat has kids but they are not his children or really even step children because they were adults when they married. I wouldnt be able to inherit anything from Pat I dont believe. Lord knows, I would be well off if I could...her mom left her a half million dollars when she died and Pat basically lived off my dad except for what she wanted to do for her own kids. Sooooo.....How do I do all this without sounding like a greedy lil witch?