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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 711517" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>The most important thing is that the baby be safe.</p><p></p><p>I think that it is good that you have dialog with your son. I think the therapy is essential. I believe, too, that the sexual acting out by same-age kids is common, and it is not too big a thing, if it was consensual. But it is clear that this was not same age and it was not consensual. Your son was too young to consent in any respect.</p><p></p><p>I agree with others that he not be left alone with the baby. It would not be fair to him, because he needs to be helped to control his impulses, not overcome with fear that he will lose control.</p><p></p><p>Before the therapy starts, I would come up with a plan to ensure the baby is safe, and that son is well-supervised while near the baby. The therapist will most likely ask you about this and it is better to be prepared.</p><p></p><p>Your son is a child and a victim, not a predator. If he is helped now, he will likely get over this. His guilt and worry are inconsistent with somebody who acts out, I think.</p><p></p><p>Do you know who the kid is who did this to him? I would ask others on this forum what they think about the advisability of making a report. This might protect your son (and you and the family), but it could backfire, too.</p><p></p><p>Welcome. I am glad you are here. Keep posting. It helps.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 711517, member: 18958"] The most important thing is that the baby be safe. I think that it is good that you have dialog with your son. I think the therapy is essential. I believe, too, that the sexual acting out by same-age kids is common, and it is not too big a thing, if it was consensual. But it is clear that this was not same age and it was not consensual. Your son was too young to consent in any respect. I agree with others that he not be left alone with the baby. It would not be fair to him, because he needs to be helped to control his impulses, not overcome with fear that he will lose control. Before the therapy starts, I would come up with a plan to ensure the baby is safe, and that son is well-supervised while near the baby. The therapist will most likely ask you about this and it is better to be prepared. Your son is a child and a victim, not a predator. If he is helped now, he will likely get over this. His guilt and worry are inconsistent with somebody who acts out, I think. Do you know who the kid is who did this to him? I would ask others on this forum what they think about the advisability of making a report. This might protect your son (and you and the family), but it could backfire, too. Welcome. I am glad you are here. Keep posting. It helps. [/QUOTE]
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