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<blockquote data-quote="Sherry3boys" data-source="post: 641406" data-attributes="member: 18604"><p>Good morning everybody, sorry about being so short on the history with my son. I have three boys ages 21, 22 and my oldest just turn 24. My youngest lives with his girlfriend and they have a a 4 month old baby girl. He Is trying to change his life around for the better. My middle son has always been my good son. Right now he is in the navy in a submarine somewhere. My oldest has always been the smartest kid out of all three. His preschool treacher seen it in him at age 3. He was in gate classes all threw grade school. I would fight him to do class work and homework threw out his school life. He would still pass all test with high to prefect scores. He passed both of the California high school exit exams with prefect scores. I tried to get him to join the military. He scored 4 points away from a prefect score on the ASVAB test. He failed the drug test because of weed. He started smoking pot in 9th grade. I was the typical PTA soccer mom, say no to drugs. On the subject of marijuana, I'm not against it. I do believe it is safe and helps save life's. I don't use it myself. Marijuana saved my youngest son from a lifetime of seizures. Just like anything marijuana can be addictive. My oldest son is highly addicted to weed. You would think he was hooked on crack. About his two kids. He had a girlfriend right after high school who fell in love with him. He was an ass to her and they ended up breaking up. She ended up being pregnant with lots of drama in the beginning. Now she is a hard working great mom to her son. My son met his ex wife while his ex girlfriend was pregnant. He fell hard in love with her. She ended up pregnant and they got married. Things ended bad after only one year. There was a lot of drama. At one point he went to jail for two days and ended up being charged with domestic violence. They have been separated for just over two years. She has remarried and is doing great as a working mom with my grand daughter. My son has never recovered. He is still heartbroken and full of hate. He hates me and his dad. He blames us mostly me for what he says is a horrible life. He told me he thinks about killing himself on a daily bases. In the last two years I have tried all kinds of things to help him. I got him into Job Corps. He lived there for three months and got kicked out. That's where he tried meth for the first time that I know of. Meth is not his drug of choice. it really makes him crazy and hallucinate. I know he has used it a hand full of times. After all that I got him enrolled into The Art Institute, which started out great. He was able to live in dorms with other students. This again only lasted about three months. I than sent him off to Little Rock AR. To live with his granny, my mother in law. That lasted six months. I let him come back home, why oh why. Well he is still on my husbands medical and I thought I might be able to get him some type of help. Kaiser only wants to see him once a month with the counselor and every three months with the therapist. How the heck is that gonna do any good. Oh let me back track real quick. I have been picking his two babies up every weekend Friday thru Sunday so they can spend time together and see their daddy. I even picked them up when my son was in little rock. For the last six months I have had to cut their visits back to every other weekend. My husband and I just can't handle them all the time. If we don't pick them up they won't be able to see each other. Back to my son. He is just getting worse. I don't think he has taken a shower in over a month and has stop all together in trying to get a job. He has know friends at all and goes and hangs out with the homeless. He looks like he is homeless and he's not. We do not buy his weed. Maybe once a week we might buy him a pack off cigarettes. Sometimes that's the only way we can get him to do anything. I don't trust him at all. Yes he has stolen from us in the past. He has made comments before that makes me worry about him doing something to me or his dad. We keep are bedroom door locked at night. Believe it or not there is a lot more details about his life. I went from no details to a book Lol.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Sherry3boys, post: 641406, member: 18604"] Good morning everybody, sorry about being so short on the history with my son. I have three boys ages 21, 22 and my oldest just turn 24. My youngest lives with his girlfriend and they have a a 4 month old baby girl. He Is trying to change his life around for the better. My middle son has always been my good son. Right now he is in the navy in a submarine somewhere. My oldest has always been the smartest kid out of all three. His preschool treacher seen it in him at age 3. He was in gate classes all threw grade school. I would fight him to do class work and homework threw out his school life. He would still pass all test with high to prefect scores. He passed both of the California high school exit exams with prefect scores. I tried to get him to join the military. He scored 4 points away from a prefect score on the ASVAB test. He failed the drug test because of weed. He started smoking pot in 9th grade. I was the typical PTA soccer mom, say no to drugs. On the subject of marijuana, I'm not against it. I do believe it is safe and helps save life's. I don't use it myself. Marijuana saved my youngest son from a lifetime of seizures. Just like anything marijuana can be addictive. My oldest son is highly addicted to weed. You would think he was hooked on crack. About his two kids. He had a girlfriend right after high school who fell in love with him. He was an ass to her and they ended up breaking up. She ended up being pregnant with lots of drama in the beginning. Now she is a hard working great mom to her son. My son met his ex wife while his ex girlfriend was pregnant. He fell hard in love with her. She ended up pregnant and they got married. Things ended bad after only one year. There was a lot of drama. At one point he went to jail for two days and ended up being charged with domestic violence. They have been separated for just over two years. She has remarried and is doing great as a working mom with my grand daughter. My son has never recovered. He is still heartbroken and full of hate. He hates me and his dad. He blames us mostly me for what he says is a horrible life. He told me he thinks about killing himself on a daily bases. In the last two years I have tried all kinds of things to help him. I got him into Job Corps. He lived there for three months and got kicked out. That's where he tried meth for the first time that I know of. Meth is not his drug of choice. it really makes him crazy and hallucinate. I know he has used it a hand full of times. After all that I got him enrolled into The Art Institute, which started out great. He was able to live in dorms with other students. This again only lasted about three months. I than sent him off to Little Rock AR. To live with his granny, my mother in law. That lasted six months. I let him come back home, why oh why. Well he is still on my husbands medical and I thought I might be able to get him some type of help. Kaiser only wants to see him once a month with the counselor and every three months with the therapist. How the heck is that gonna do any good. Oh let me back track real quick. I have been picking his two babies up every weekend Friday thru Sunday so they can spend time together and see their daddy. I even picked them up when my son was in little rock. For the last six months I have had to cut their visits back to every other weekend. My husband and I just can't handle them all the time. If we don't pick them up they won't be able to see each other. Back to my son. He is just getting worse. I don't think he has taken a shower in over a month and has stop all together in trying to get a job. He has know friends at all and goes and hangs out with the homeless. He looks like he is homeless and he's not. We do not buy his weed. Maybe once a week we might buy him a pack off cigarettes. Sometimes that's the only way we can get him to do anything. I don't trust him at all. Yes he has stolen from us in the past. He has made comments before that makes me worry about him doing something to me or his dad. We keep are bedroom door locked at night. Believe it or not there is a lot more details about his life. I went from no details to a book Lol. [/QUOTE]
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