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I need help with my oldest son who is 24
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<blockquote data-quote="GuideMe" data-source="post: 641434" data-attributes="member: 18233"><p>Hi Sherry, Thank you for sharing your story. Please do not think we are coming off harsh. All these messages are a lot to take in and perhaps it might take you a week, maybe more, to read them without feeling sad or mad. That's when the message comes clearer. We have all been where you are, some of us still there. I must say, when I read your message, you sound way too involved in your sons emotions and life. You're not even detached not even a little bit and you should be for his age. Like the others have said, there is absolutely no reason for him to change. You are so afraid of throwing him out when I know others who made their children move at a much younger age than your son is right now, and half of them were actually girls. All of our difficult child have problems and if they can do it, your son surely can. Life is very hard out there in the real world and you are making it way too easy for him to stay and not deal with his responsibilities or life in general. You are too busy feeling sad and feeling sorry for him, but you are hurting him more than you are helping by not having faith in his capabilities. How you're treating him is crippling him. Now I am not saying throw him out tomorrow, but maybe it's time to start giving deadlines. Start learning to detach first. Stick around this forum for a while and I promise you will learn so much. I only have been here for a few months and already made some big steps. Believe me, I still have MUCH to learn and still in the throws of it all, but I'm seeing a smidge of the light.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="GuideMe, post: 641434, member: 18233"] Hi Sherry, Thank you for sharing your story. Please do not think we are coming off harsh. All these messages are a lot to take in and perhaps it might take you a week, maybe more, to read them without feeling sad or mad. That's when the message comes clearer. We have all been where you are, some of us still there. I must say, when I read your message, you sound way too involved in your sons emotions and life. You're not even detached not even a little bit and you should be for his age. Like the others have said, there is absolutely no reason for him to change. You are so afraid of throwing him out when I know others who made their children move at a much younger age than your son is right now, and half of them were actually girls. All of our difficult child have problems and if they can do it, your son surely can. Life is very hard out there in the real world and you are making it way too easy for him to stay and not deal with his responsibilities or life in general. You are too busy feeling sad and feeling sorry for him, but you are hurting him more than you are helping by not having faith in his capabilities. How you're treating him is crippling him. Now I am not saying throw him out tomorrow, but maybe it's time to start giving deadlines. Start learning to detach first. Stick around this forum for a while and I promise you will learn so much. I only have been here for a few months and already made some big steps. Believe me, I still have MUCH to learn and still in the throws of it all, but I'm seeing a smidge of the light. [/QUOTE]
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