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<blockquote data-quote="neednewtechnique" data-source="post: 36523" data-attributes="member: 3527"><p>Funky,</p><p></p><p>Wow, it sounds like you are dealing with a LOT... I could say that I am in a situation somewhat similar to yours, with not knowing anything about these disorders. I have 2 easy child's of my own and my husband's daughter only moved in with us a few months ago. At that point, we were totally UNPREPARED for what was ahead for us. Before the move in to our home in January, she had only been visiting with us on weekends and was SUCH a joy to have around and such a great kid. She was in foster care due to issues that she was having in regards to her mom, and CPS made us go through evaluations and all sorts of things before they would allow her dad to have custody, because he never has had her living with him before. During our evaluations, she was placed in foster care, and her foster mother, although she was having all these problems, just wasn't telling anyone what was really happening at home, so we had NO IDEA what was going on until she moved. And it was such a SUDDEN explosion of feelings and agression and sometimes violence that prompted me to start searching for help. It is only by chance that I came across this forum, and everyone here has been WONDERFUL. The time between January and now, between everything I learn here from these wonderful people and everything I learn from her psychiatrist and her therapist, I am beginning to feel somewhat competent, which is a great feeling.</p><p></p><p>As mentioned before, some parents opt not to medicate, and in instances where an ADD child needs stimulant medication to control their ADD, medication can become a problem because if they have behavioral issues such as violent or agressive behavior, stimulants can make that behavior worse. If you are 100% against medication of any kind, I KNOW that EVERYONE here will do their best to help you get through and even offer helpful advice on how to deal with your child's symptoms umedicated. However, I might suggest that if you would consider medication, you could try some of the natural/herbal remedies, which would keep you away from the psychotropic medications, but might provide some releif of her symptoms. There is an entire forum here at this site devoted to discussions on those natural medications and it is actually a great thing. Also, they have come out with some "non-stimulant" medications for ADD, such as Straterra, that are not quite as altering or scary as say, Ritalin, Concerta, Focalin, Adderall, or the others you read about....</p><p></p><p>Don't misunderstand, I am not trying to talk you into something you don't want to do, just trying to give you a few other options, in case you didn't realize they were out there. And don't think for one minute that anyone here will criticize you for the decision you have made not to medicate, because believe me, our difficult child takes Concerta, which IS a stimulant and most of the time I believe that her medication, while it may help her focus, overall, it makes her behavior WORSE, and we have considered taking her off of it and trying to go it unmedicated, and it still may come to that. In July, CPS is prepared to give my husband and I full custody of our difficult child, at which point that decision will be ours to make, and there is a good possibility that if it is up to us, we will be trying the same road you are on now!! </p><p></p><p>Good luck, if you have any specific questions, please let us know! Otherwise, just know that we are here for you!!!!!!!!!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="neednewtechnique, post: 36523, member: 3527"] Funky, Wow, it sounds like you are dealing with a LOT... I could say that I am in a situation somewhat similar to yours, with not knowing anything about these disorders. I have 2 easy child's of my own and my husband's daughter only moved in with us a few months ago. At that point, we were totally UNPREPARED for what was ahead for us. Before the move in to our home in January, she had only been visiting with us on weekends and was SUCH a joy to have around and such a great kid. She was in foster care due to issues that she was having in regards to her mom, and CPS made us go through evaluations and all sorts of things before they would allow her dad to have custody, because he never has had her living with him before. During our evaluations, she was placed in foster care, and her foster mother, although she was having all these problems, just wasn't telling anyone what was really happening at home, so we had NO IDEA what was going on until she moved. And it was such a SUDDEN explosion of feelings and agression and sometimes violence that prompted me to start searching for help. It is only by chance that I came across this forum, and everyone here has been WONDERFUL. The time between January and now, between everything I learn here from these wonderful people and everything I learn from her psychiatrist and her therapist, I am beginning to feel somewhat competent, which is a great feeling. As mentioned before, some parents opt not to medicate, and in instances where an ADD child needs stimulant medication to control their ADD, medication can become a problem because if they have behavioral issues such as violent or agressive behavior, stimulants can make that behavior worse. If you are 100% against medication of any kind, I KNOW that EVERYONE here will do their best to help you get through and even offer helpful advice on how to deal with your child's symptoms umedicated. However, I might suggest that if you would consider medication, you could try some of the natural/herbal remedies, which would keep you away from the psychotropic medications, but might provide some releif of her symptoms. There is an entire forum here at this site devoted to discussions on those natural medications and it is actually a great thing. Also, they have come out with some "non-stimulant" medications for ADD, such as Straterra, that are not quite as altering or scary as say, Ritalin, Concerta, Focalin, Adderall, or the others you read about.... Don't misunderstand, I am not trying to talk you into something you don't want to do, just trying to give you a few other options, in case you didn't realize they were out there. And don't think for one minute that anyone here will criticize you for the decision you have made not to medicate, because believe me, our difficult child takes Concerta, which IS a stimulant and most of the time I believe that her medication, while it may help her focus, overall, it makes her behavior WORSE, and we have considered taking her off of it and trying to go it unmedicated, and it still may come to that. In July, CPS is prepared to give my husband and I full custody of our difficult child, at which point that decision will be ours to make, and there is a good possibility that if it is up to us, we will be trying the same road you are on now!! Good luck, if you have any specific questions, please let us know! Otherwise, just know that we are here for you!!!!!!!!!! [/QUOTE]
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