Morning All, I was hoping for your thoughts on this. All "year" (that's 11 months), I've been asking difficult child Dr/Counseling group for respite (and THEY keep saying I need it). But on Friday I got a call from difficult child's Home Base Counselor who said that they want me to go to weekly parenting class, and also counseling. And they said they would really push me to do it. So they want me to do MORE now, instead of setting up respite for me. Now here's why I'm upset about this. I'm tired and stressed because of all the things I have to do without any break from the boys at all. What would help me and my family is some respite so I can do something or do chores/errands without the boys. I have 'no' time alone, 'none'. And I need some 'alone time' to re-energized and come back to the battle refreshed. But instead of giving us what we "NEED", they are just loading me up with more responsibilities to do, which then spreads me thinner each week. This is not going to help me about being overwhelmed and pulled in to many directions which stresses me out, it's just going to add to it. I really feel like telling them that this Homebase counseling is not working, and that I'm stopping it. I mean, the only thing that these people have done is "1" morning chore chart, and filing out reports while they are here and that's it. Everything else is, "you must do this, you must read this, you must.....". I really thought Homebase was different than this. I thought they would come and be actively participating while here, but they're not. So what's the point of having them here, which interrupts our night, and makes the next day harder for all of us, especially difficult child who is extra tired and irritable. I have even told them that we need to move the night to Friday night, so that difficult child can sleep in Saturday, because right now it's making his week really hard for him and us. I just don't know if I want to remain in homebase services, but I will keep difficult child in his BMPS, which is after school M-F. Any thoughts guys would really help.