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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 693900" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Kathy, im glad you said it first. The people I read about who quit, in my memory, ALL were out of the home, most were homeless at one time. I also cant think of a single time when moving home was helpful in addiction. But I thought maybe I was not remembering right.</p><p></p><p>I dont recall paying rent or buying them cars or anything like that doing anything other than giving them help to use their drugs. That's why I suggested making life hard for them. And for all those who worry about their kids eating, drug addicts dont eat much. Save for pot, I believe most drugs kill the appetite. There are always ways to get food if they want to eat, just like there are always ways to find drugs if the person wants to use.</p><p></p><p>I never think an addict going home or getting financial support does anything other than fund the addiction. And, yes, it is horrifying to hear your beloved child telling you that she will hate you forever for</p><p> abandoning her. I had so much guilt and second thoughts, but in the end, she did it. She did it because "its too hard to take drugs."</p><p></p><p>That's a long drop to rock bottom and it goes against our nature as parents to remove all our support except our love. And they may be too angry to give a rat's about our love when we stop enabling the habit.</p><p></p><p>But I'm glad me, my husband and my ex decided to do it. We have a fine young woman now. She could have died.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 693900, member: 1550"] Kathy, im glad you said it first. The people I read about who quit, in my memory, ALL were out of the home, most were homeless at one time. I also cant think of a single time when moving home was helpful in addiction. But I thought maybe I was not remembering right. I dont recall paying rent or buying them cars or anything like that doing anything other than giving them help to use their drugs. That's why I suggested making life hard for them. And for all those who worry about their kids eating, drug addicts dont eat much. Save for pot, I believe most drugs kill the appetite. There are always ways to get food if they want to eat, just like there are always ways to find drugs if the person wants to use. I never think an addict going home or getting financial support does anything other than fund the addiction. And, yes, it is horrifying to hear your beloved child telling you that she will hate you forever for abandoning her. I had so much guilt and second thoughts, but in the end, she did it. She did it because "its too hard to take drugs." That's a long drop to rock bottom and it goes against our nature as parents to remove all our support except our love. And they may be too angry to give a rat's about our love when we stop enabling the habit. But I'm glad me, my husband and my ex decided to do it. We have a fine young woman now. She could have died. [/QUOTE]
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