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<blockquote data-quote="JayPee" data-source="post: 760948" data-attributes="member: 23405"><p>Sorry to hear that nothing has changed. I agree with Busy. No good will come from letting him come back home. You will have "maybe" a day or a few hours of feeling comfort in knowing he has a place to rest his head and food in his belly and that you know where he is. But I promise you it will get ugly. We're dealing with addicts whose primary motive is to either drink or drug and their minds are still warped from these addictions. When they don't get the $20 or more they're requesting, then they get verbally abusive and angry and all bets are off. You will feel like a prisoner in your home.</p><p></p><p>It's the acceptance of the situation that is so awfully hard for us. "We" want it to be different so bad that we keep going back to the insanity thinking something will change, but if we don't change, and they don't change, what on earth are we expecting?</p><p></p><p>I may have mentioned the serenity prayer before but I pray it quite often....</p><p></p><p>"God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can (in me!), and the wisdom to know the difference."</p><p></p><p>Remember...we can't change them, but we can change or ebb the pain of constantly worrying, obsessing and focusing our every thought on what they are doing, where they are, etc.</p><p></p><p>They are the only one's who can make the changes within themselves. They have to want it as badly as we do.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JayPee, post: 760948, member: 23405"] Sorry to hear that nothing has changed. I agree with Busy. No good will come from letting him come back home. You will have "maybe" a day or a few hours of feeling comfort in knowing he has a place to rest his head and food in his belly and that you know where he is. But I promise you it will get ugly. We're dealing with addicts whose primary motive is to either drink or drug and their minds are still warped from these addictions. When they don't get the $20 or more they're requesting, then they get verbally abusive and angry and all bets are off. You will feel like a prisoner in your home. It's the acceptance of the situation that is so awfully hard for us. "We" want it to be different so bad that we keep going back to the insanity thinking something will change, but if we don't change, and they don't change, what on earth are we expecting? I may have mentioned the serenity prayer before but I pray it quite often.... "God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can (in me!), and the wisdom to know the difference." Remember...we can't change them, but we can change or ebb the pain of constantly worrying, obsessing and focusing our every thought on what they are doing, where they are, etc. They are the only one's who can make the changes within themselves. They have to want it as badly as we do. [/QUOTE]
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