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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 672551" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I have found, from sad experience, that our troubled adult children deliberately choose to hang around with other troubled adult children. Idon't know if you can make her stop seeing boyfriend, although he is a loser. It is up to her whether she wants to or gives him a pass. I would think hard, if it were me, if I want her living in my home if she defies all the rules, including still seeing boyfriend. THAT you have control over. I hope that car was in HER name, not yours.</p><p></p><p>Hon, she would not have said she uses ICE if she doesn't. It is so hard to face things sometimes. We don't want to and there is little legally we can do after they are 18. WE don't have to pick them up if they get arrested though or pay their errant bills or let them live in our home. I tearfully made my nineteen year old daughter leave when I caught her havaing a drug party in our house while we were out. I had two younger kids to consider. You know what she did? SHE QUIT! I'm not saying that works for all, but it's been eleven years clean here, which she says had a lot to do with our tough stance. We stopped giving her money as soon as we knew she did drugs. No allowance. We took the car away too. And she was only sixteen. We didn't want our money going to help her buy drugs. We did not want to help her drive while she was wasted...maybe get killed or kill another. No blood on our hands. She was furious, but too bad.</p><p></p><p>She quit on her own. No rehab, although it's a good option that can get expensive and be useless if the person isn't ready to quit. When they want to quit, they do quit. She even quit cigarettes and didn't tell us until after she did it. It is not up to the parents to d o it. We legally can't. It is up to the person who is using. And it is not our faults.</p><p></p><p>In the end we stand with you whatever you decide. Hugs!!!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 672551, member: 1550"] I have found, from sad experience, that our troubled adult children deliberately choose to hang around with other troubled adult children. Idon't know if you can make her stop seeing boyfriend, although he is a loser. It is up to her whether she wants to or gives him a pass. I would think hard, if it were me, if I want her living in my home if she defies all the rules, including still seeing boyfriend. THAT you have control over. I hope that car was in HER name, not yours. Hon, she would not have said she uses ICE if she doesn't. It is so hard to face things sometimes. We don't want to and there is little legally we can do after they are 18. WE don't have to pick them up if they get arrested though or pay their errant bills or let them live in our home. I tearfully made my nineteen year old daughter leave when I caught her havaing a drug party in our house while we were out. I had two younger kids to consider. You know what she did? SHE QUIT! I'm not saying that works for all, but it's been eleven years clean here, which she says had a lot to do with our tough stance. We stopped giving her money as soon as we knew she did drugs. No allowance. We took the car away too. And she was only sixteen. We didn't want our money going to help her buy drugs. We did not want to help her drive while she was wasted...maybe get killed or kill another. No blood on our hands. She was furious, but too bad. She quit on her own. No rehab, although it's a good option that can get expensive and be useless if the person isn't ready to quit. When they want to quit, they do quit. She even quit cigarettes and didn't tell us until after she did it. It is not up to the parents to d o it. We legally can't. It is up to the person who is using. And it is not our faults. In the end we stand with you whatever you decide. Hugs!!!! [/QUOTE]
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