My girlfriend and I have been dating for some time now. She moved in with me over a year ago. I lost my job shortly after that, and my unemployment let us scrape by until I started working about a month ago. So we have lived on a very tight budget since. Her oldest easy child treats me like ****. From simple teenage disrespect, breaking anything & everything he gets his hands on, to actually threats where the police are called. He has been off from school for the last 3 days, and made his mother's and my life hell. We use a level system in our home, and he has been at the bottom of the system for a good week now. Today I was at work, but was told he did pretty good today. Came home and he was at level 2. Good sign, still low, but glad to see he tried. We went shopping and she starts throwing things in the cart without even talking to me about it. I got upset cause I'm still on a very tight budget till we're all caught up on the bills, and they decided to get breakfast items for next week because he doesn't like what the school serves, and it's not enough. His school feeds him a whole lot better than his mother or I eat. Instead of talking to me about it when I said no, she storms off. I finally catch up to her, I had put the cart to the side and said we can either talk about this or just go home. She is upset cause he had a good day today, and I'm not willing to just buy him whatever they see fit. Needless to say, or trip ended there, and now I'm this bad guy. I know with special needs children you have to praise the good moments, and let the bad ones roll off your back. I never get to see many of the good moments. They usually seem to happen few & far between, and almost never when I'm home. I just feel like I'm either this bad guy that ruins it for everyone, or I'm the dictator of the house.