I know that odd is oppositional defiance disorder, and believe me I certainly know what it looks, sounds, and acts like !! What I can't understand is how odd works all the time. Do the difficult child's look at situations and say to themselves "this is what everyone elso does, so I'm going to do the oppositie"? If someone says yes does that mean they think it through and have to say no? How do they ever manage in life? At age 20 mine has had many jobs and no matter what she will not work more than a month, unless she is at home, she did work 4 hours per day at the same job for 6 months - we wouldn't let her quit and I think part of it was she didn't want to be stuck at home either so work was sort of an outing. don't mistakingly thing work is the only conflict around here, it isn't, there are many. I'm just using an example. We live in a small rural community, distant from large centers and she can't seem to understand that this is life. We've also told her that she can live where ever she wants, but she has to get there the normal way, save some money, find a job, a place to live and move. she'd rather run away to a bad situation of any kind . I need some input, please.