Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
General Discussions
The Watercooler
I need support (again)
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="Deni D" data-source="post: 757237" data-attributes="member: 22840"><p>Copa, no one seemed to notice my passions in life while I was growing, barley noticed me at all, too many of us in my family I think, too much otherwise chaos, lots of chaos. In comparison I think I was most likely lucky in that regard compared to you.</p><p>I have a feeling for you, maybe yours did notice what you were about but diminished your interests, like "Oh hell, she's going to be an artist and not make a living!" or "don't waste your time on that drivel" it's not correct unless you "draw within the lines" kind of stuff or pushing you to excel instead of recognizing young people go through transitions and understand those transitions are important, very important in their lives.</p><p>Or maybe from your experiences you somehow put these restrictions on yourself, like if you are not perfect you are wrong, bad, lacking.</p><p>I have a feeling the "disapproval" is coming between you and your openness to your creative side. The side you are trying to connect with, your younger, creative, more feeling side.</p><p>No matter what the cause is it seems you are not allowing yourself to play, to have fun with the things you are interested it. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder is so true in the artistic world. Take Picasso, from my view I think his artwork sucks, but most likely if he was alive today he wouldn't care about my opinion, lol, and he shouldn't. And I doubt very much he would have been impressed with my colored drawings of daffodils and tulips this spring time of year reminds of from grammar school <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" />.</p><p>I did this thing called EMDR for something anyone from the outside would agree were traumatic experiences for any child in early childhood. The initial experiences were bad enough but I was blamed and treated "as if" I was the one responsible for those experiences for many years while I was growing up in my family, stuff I could not even understand until I was an adult, and then stuffed because it was so very hard to look at, because by then I was so long conditioned to blame myself for it. The EMDR resolved it, amazing.</p><p>It came about as I was going to therapy with someone who did this EMDR stuff,she suggested it and I was like "okay my life sucks,(considering the problems with my son), thought it would go that way for some relief, so lets try it" and the past just kind of came up, not something I even saw as an issue. I had lived with it for so long I didn't realize it was an issue until it came up in those EMDR sessions. I can't explain it other than it works and weird that it came up, like not even from me. I am at peace with it all now and am calm about it with no triggers and a quiet acceptance of the human condition with those who were involved. Those both living and who have passed long ago. And strangely it gave me more resilience in dealing with the reality of my son, more clarity of my worth and resolve not to accept the unacceptable.</p><p>From my experience with this stuff, I don't know if you can plan to get to the root of anything you actually want to address with it, just that I didn't know it was going to take me there. Didn't know it was even there. But maybe you can, maybe someone can help you to hit at that sweet spot (or more accurately sour spot) and then be able to help you release it to go onto the things that you know will give you joy.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Deni D, post: 757237, member: 22840"] Copa, no one seemed to notice my passions in life while I was growing, barley noticed me at all, too many of us in my family I think, too much otherwise chaos, lots of chaos. In comparison I think I was most likely lucky in that regard compared to you. I have a feeling for you, maybe yours did notice what you were about but diminished your interests, like "Oh hell, she's going to be an artist and not make a living!" or "don't waste your time on that drivel" it's not correct unless you "draw within the lines" kind of stuff or pushing you to excel instead of recognizing young people go through transitions and understand those transitions are important, very important in their lives. Or maybe from your experiences you somehow put these restrictions on yourself, like if you are not perfect you are wrong, bad, lacking. I have a feeling the "disapproval" is coming between you and your openness to your creative side. The side you are trying to connect with, your younger, creative, more feeling side. No matter what the cause is it seems you are not allowing yourself to play, to have fun with the things you are interested it. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder is so true in the artistic world. Take Picasso, from my view I think his artwork sucks, but most likely if he was alive today he wouldn't care about my opinion, lol, and he shouldn't. And I doubt very much he would have been impressed with my colored drawings of daffodils and tulips this spring time of year reminds of from grammar school :). I did this thing called EMDR for something anyone from the outside would agree were traumatic experiences for any child in early childhood. The initial experiences were bad enough but I was blamed and treated "as if" I was the one responsible for those experiences for many years while I was growing up in my family, stuff I could not even understand until I was an adult, and then stuffed because it was so very hard to look at, because by then I was so long conditioned to blame myself for it. The EMDR resolved it, amazing. It came about as I was going to therapy with someone who did this EMDR stuff,she suggested it and I was like "okay my life sucks,(considering the problems with my son), thought it would go that way for some relief, so lets try it" and the past just kind of came up, not something I even saw as an issue. I had lived with it for so long I didn't realize it was an issue until it came up in those EMDR sessions. I can't explain it other than it works and weird that it came up, like not even from me. I am at peace with it all now and am calm about it with no triggers and a quiet acceptance of the human condition with those who were involved. Those both living and who have passed long ago. And strangely it gave me more resilience in dealing with the reality of my son, more clarity of my worth and resolve not to accept the unacceptable. From my experience with this stuff, I don't know if you can plan to get to the root of anything you actually want to address with it, just that I didn't know it was going to take me there. Didn't know it was even there. But maybe you can, maybe someone can help you to hit at that sweet spot (or more accurately sour spot) and then be able to help you release it to go onto the things that you know will give you joy. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
General Discussions
The Watercooler
I need support (again)
Top