I received an email from my brother in law who is currently staying with mother in law since the father went into the hospital and helped her do stuff, including arrange funeral, etc. Well, seems brother in law has planned a reception at their country club for after the church service - understandable. Seems brother in law feels that H and his sister should kick in to help cover the cost - NOT understandable. He attached the reception invoice to the email. I almost fell over when I saw it. $3400 NOT including booze, and what do old people like to do? Drink booze. It listed all the stupid appetizers/finger foods he's ordered and the service fee and it comes to $3400. Wow. How can he think that we could possibly afford to help with a bill like that? First of all - his mother's income is $6000/month PLUS she has $12,000 in a money market savings account (which means she can withdraw money). PLUS, she will soon be receiving all the insurance money that he had on 12, yes 12, life insurance policies. She will be OKAY, okay? No lack of funds there for mother in law. Second, if H doesn't work - he doesn't have an income. He is self employed and lost all of July's income due to his father's illness, us traveling down there, incurring expenses we had to charge and will have to pay at some point. He had to change his work scheduled for the past 3 weeks and in doing so lost a HUGE money making job that he will not be able to get back. For the month he has worked MAYBE 5 days total where he made actual money. On the other days that he worked it was mostly administrative so, again, no income. Last, his brother has a habit of doing stuff like this - making plans and finalizing them without getting the input from H or his sister, and then expecting them to willingly cough up some dollars. And H will be angry, but I am afraid because it's all wrapped up in his father's death and his mother's helplessness, he will go along with it. I will FLIP the F out if H commits to paying any portion of this bill. Talk me down girls....PLEASE, talk me down.