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<blockquote data-quote="Pokey's mom" data-source="post: 34749" data-attributes="member: 49"><p><span style="color: #6633FF"> </span> <span style='font-family: Comic Sans MS'> </span> </p><p>Thanks for all that have posted so far. I will back up a bit and give you some more history about this child. When her father and I first started dating, over 2 years ago, she was at my place for dinner with us when she totally flipped out, just started yelling and going off at her dad, scared my difficult child out of his wits as he had never seen anything like that--not even his meltdowns where that bad. She called her mother to come get her and slammed her way out of the house. Weird thing was her mother never called to see what the heck just happened. Well that was just the beginning, I started seeing her cycling pattern..manic near April(her birthday month) than by October she's back down and we are all a bunch of SOB's. No contact from her over any holidays. The first year she was still in high school so we could really keep better track of her moods. Looking back her father said she had always been like that, just when you are living in dysfunction you begin to think it's normal. She really seemed to go "over the edge" when her grandmother (my fiance's mother) died in 2002. SO told me that the past 4 years were totally out of control with her. The thing is that her mother will have NO contact with us. We have tried so many times to talk with them about our concerns with her-invited them to our home for dinner, ect. They just think her behavior is OK, and the favorite line is "she's just mad at you".</p><p></p><p>This is way more than teenage stuff, the kid is unstable--bipolar runs hard and heavy on both sides of her tree. She's so far out there on her view of reality and she runs the show at her mother's place. SO was put through the wringer with his ex, but he still sent a check every month for difficult child, that is until his exwife told him not to talk to her, write her ect---talk about "biting your nose to spite your face" As far as their divorce agreement--it's about as "rednecked" as you can get-exwife wrote it herself, no lawyer involved--all her choice. SO just wanted to get away from her. So there is really nothing that holds him to paying for anything, but he still feels guilty. He just wanted a relationship with his only child, but they can't even talk without her going into a tirade about some sort of perceived injustice.</p><p></p><p>She emailed yesterday and amongst her ranting it seems that she is very jelous of her father's relationship with my difficult child. That is a good relationship, difficult child listens to and respects SO. His daughter has no respect for anyone, not even herself I fear. We have copies of emails that she has sent to us, they are just sick, it's a sad situation but until she does something so that her mother will "wake up" and see that her daughter is really bad off I fear she will continue down this road.</p><p></p><p>So really, it's more than just the money, and maybe this will be the begining of her getting the help that she needs, she's on a downward slope going very fast.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Pokey's mom, post: 34749, member: 49"] <span style="color: #6633FF"> </span> <span style='font-family: Comic Sans MS'> </span> Thanks for all that have posted so far. I will back up a bit and give you some more history about this child. When her father and I first started dating, over 2 years ago, she was at my place for dinner with us when she totally flipped out, just started yelling and going off at her dad, scared my difficult child out of his wits as he had never seen anything like that--not even his meltdowns where that bad. She called her mother to come get her and slammed her way out of the house. Weird thing was her mother never called to see what the heck just happened. Well that was just the beginning, I started seeing her cycling pattern..manic near April(her birthday month) than by October she's back down and we are all a bunch of SOB's. No contact from her over any holidays. The first year she was still in high school so we could really keep better track of her moods. Looking back her father said she had always been like that, just when you are living in dysfunction you begin to think it's normal. She really seemed to go "over the edge" when her grandmother (my fiance's mother) died in 2002. SO told me that the past 4 years were totally out of control with her. The thing is that her mother will have NO contact with us. We have tried so many times to talk with them about our concerns with her-invited them to our home for dinner, ect. They just think her behavior is OK, and the favorite line is "she's just mad at you". This is way more than teenage stuff, the kid is unstable--bipolar runs hard and heavy on both sides of her tree. She's so far out there on her view of reality and she runs the show at her mother's place. SO was put through the wringer with his ex, but he still sent a check every month for difficult child, that is until his exwife told him not to talk to her, write her ect---talk about "biting your nose to spite your face" As far as their divorce agreement--it's about as "rednecked" as you can get-exwife wrote it herself, no lawyer involved--all her choice. SO just wanted to get away from her. So there is really nothing that holds him to paying for anything, but he still feels guilty. He just wanted a relationship with his only child, but they can't even talk without her going into a tirade about some sort of perceived injustice. She emailed yesterday and amongst her ranting it seems that she is very jelous of her father's relationship with my difficult child. That is a good relationship, difficult child listens to and respects SO. His daughter has no respect for anyone, not even herself I fear. We have copies of emails that she has sent to us, they are just sick, it's a sad situation but until she does something so that her mother will "wake up" and see that her daughter is really bad off I fear she will continue down this road. So really, it's more than just the money, and maybe this will be the begining of her getting the help that she needs, she's on a downward slope going very fast. [/QUOTE]
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