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I Never Imagined I’d Be Here- Need Advice
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 751515" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I will tell you what I think. I think this could be risky for you. I would feel badly if she wasn't there or did not open the door. She could well do that, just to make you feel bad, and to have control. Or did not put out the stuff. I would also worry that there could be an argument, or that she (or he) could say or do something. I worry that by going there you put yourself in a lower spot, vulnerable to her.</p><p>I am not an attorney but if your father is on the lease it makes sense that he has the right to go in and out, or even to live there if he wants. If he was willing to go there with you, that would be one option. The thing with this is that she will likely get very angry. And then what? You see, it sounds like her idea of her grandfather on the lease was how it would help her. She did not think about how she could be compromised.</p><p></p><p>Each of these ideas have their downsides, to me. The first one does not have an upside. The second one, has an upside, but risks, too. I like the second one because if you're sure she (and nobody else) is there, there is limited pain for you.</p><p></p><p>What other stuff would you be going for, besides the gateway? Is it really worth it. My experience with cable companies is that they will give you credit for returning rented equipment even well past the time, service stops. Is this stuff worth this?</p><p></p><p>If you enter the house with your Dad I doubt if she will cooperate with the pawn shop. If that jewelry is important to you, I might focus upon that.</p><p></p><p>Sometimes these lessons we learn cost us.</p><p></p><p>As far as CPS, I would NOT call unless there is clear cut and verifiable risk to your grandson. Anything less than that risks the calls being considered by CPS as crank calls, or only to make trouble. That would hurt your grandson's situation rather than help it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 751515, member: 18958"] I will tell you what I think. I think this could be risky for you. I would feel badly if she wasn't there or did not open the door. She could well do that, just to make you feel bad, and to have control. Or did not put out the stuff. I would also worry that there could be an argument, or that she (or he) could say or do something. I worry that by going there you put yourself in a lower spot, vulnerable to her. I am not an attorney but if your father is on the lease it makes sense that he has the right to go in and out, or even to live there if he wants. If he was willing to go there with you, that would be one option. The thing with this is that she will likely get very angry. And then what? You see, it sounds like her idea of her grandfather on the lease was how it would help her. She did not think about how she could be compromised. Each of these ideas have their downsides, to me. The first one does not have an upside. The second one, has an upside, but risks, too. I like the second one because if you're sure she (and nobody else) is there, there is limited pain for you. What other stuff would you be going for, besides the gateway? Is it really worth it. My experience with cable companies is that they will give you credit for returning rented equipment even well past the time, service stops. Is this stuff worth this? If you enter the house with your Dad I doubt if she will cooperate with the pawn shop. If that jewelry is important to you, I might focus upon that. Sometimes these lessons we learn cost us. As far as CPS, I would NOT call unless there is clear cut and verifiable risk to your grandson. Anything less than that risks the calls being considered by CPS as crank calls, or only to make trouble. That would hurt your grandson's situation rather than help it. [/QUOTE]
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