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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 630257" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>My granddaughter is leaving for college in August and although boys have been hanging around and she was dating, she made a clear commitment NOT to get in to any serious relationship. In fact, last year, she was with a boy for over 2 years and before they mutually broke it off, she told me that she told him that before she leaves for college they were going to break up. She just told me that her college roommate has a boyfriend and before she leaves, she is going to break up with him. Perhaps this is a trend among the younger set, maybe your daughter feels this is the right thing for her to do now.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>She may have the kind of confidence that will attract all kinds of people regardless of ethnicity. It may not be difficult for her at all MWM, that may be your own fears creeping in for her, she may not see it that way at all. She has always seemed like a very confident, assertive, grounded person who knows what she wants.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>This parenting thing is a tough road MWM, as you well know. This is just a small bump on the big road, Jumper will find her way just fine, she is a capable, caring, smart young woman who knows what's she's doing.................in the meantime, let her go, let her know you trust her judgements, that you honor her choices. It's hard on us, but inside your daughter beats the heart of a grown woman, a woman who knows what she wants and knows what she's doing. You are always there for her and she knows that, so if she needs to talk, you will be the first person she goes to. For now, it may be best to do something just for you, to be nurturing and kind to you, this letting go of our easy child's is just as difficult, only in different ways. </p><p></p><p>I have my own feelings of letting go of my 18 year old college bound granddaughter so I can empathize with you MWM. And, let's face it, it's just time for us to let go. They are off on their adventure now, they will be away from home and making their own choices, it is a very heady time for them. I have been doing a lot of "sitting on my lips" as someone recently posted..............very often what I think of my granddaughter's choices is NONE of my business!! Ha! More letting go!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 630257, member: 13542"] My granddaughter is leaving for college in August and although boys have been hanging around and she was dating, she made a clear commitment NOT to get in to any serious relationship. In fact, last year, she was with a boy for over 2 years and before they mutually broke it off, she told me that she told him that before she leaves for college they were going to break up. She just told me that her college roommate has a boyfriend and before she leaves, she is going to break up with him. Perhaps this is a trend among the younger set, maybe your daughter feels this is the right thing for her to do now. She may have the kind of confidence that will attract all kinds of people regardless of ethnicity. It may not be difficult for her at all MWM, that may be your own fears creeping in for her, she may not see it that way at all. She has always seemed like a very confident, assertive, grounded person who knows what she wants. This parenting thing is a tough road MWM, as you well know. This is just a small bump on the big road, Jumper will find her way just fine, she is a capable, caring, smart young woman who knows what's she's doing.................in the meantime, let her go, let her know you trust her judgements, that you honor her choices. It's hard on us, but inside your daughter beats the heart of a grown woman, a woman who knows what she wants and knows what she's doing. You are always there for her and she knows that, so if she needs to talk, you will be the first person she goes to. For now, it may be best to do something just for you, to be nurturing and kind to you, this letting go of our easy child's is just as difficult, only in different ways. I have my own feelings of letting go of my 18 year old college bound granddaughter so I can empathize with you MWM. And, let's face it, it's just time for us to let go. They are off on their adventure now, they will be away from home and making their own choices, it is a very heady time for them. I have been doing a lot of "sitting on my lips" as someone recently posted..............very often what I think of my granddaughter's choices is NONE of my business!! Ha! More letting go! [/QUOTE]
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