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Discussion in 'General Parenting' started by Wiped Out, Apr 4, 2008.

  1. Wiped Out

    Wiped Out Well-Known Member Staff Member

    have asked what more in my thread in the wc.

    husband dropped difficult child off at my school after work because he needs to stay on that side of town waiting for easy child to be done with her activity.

    He just had time to explain that difficult child got himself in a boatload of trouble today at school (and here I was feeling sorry for him yesterday-which was valid).

    Apparently he punched some kid and hit/punched/kicked (don't know which if not all three) two of the aides that were trying to help. It was not the same child he has been having trouble with but a supposed friend.:angry-very:

    He may actually end up with an out of school suspension for this one because it might be considered a level 4. If that turns out to be the case then it will be out of school and I don't have a whole lot of sick days left. I'm tired on having to use them on difficult child.

    I also feel bad for husband because he said some people are saying it should be a level 4 and he should be suspended-some have wondered why he hasn't been suspended earlier this year. It puts husband in a bad spot. I'll be glad when the year is over and they aren't at the same school anymore.

    Sorry I have been doing so much posting lately-I'm just not sure what more to do to help difficult child at this point. Of course, we will call psychiatrist on Monday but I'm not sure what more he can do. Hopefully the wrap around stuff will start soon but I'm guessing not til May.
  2. smallworld

    smallworld Moderator

    Sharon, I'm so sorry for all that has happened. Please don't apologize for posting -- that's why we're here. No words of advice; just sending many gentle hugs your way.
  3. gcvmom

    gcvmom Here we go again!

    So sorry you're dealing with this. been there done that with the suspension stuff because of out-of-control gfgness (hitting, kicking other kids, making threatening remarks, bringing a knife to school).

    What is the school doing to help him?
  4. jannie

    jannie trying to survive....

    I've been so busy lately that I have not had time to post. I am so sorry that all of this is happening....Go ahead and vent away. It's frustrating and annoying. You certainly have the right to be upset. He's been dealing with so much with the other student that perhaps, he just lashed out on someone else. I don't know when they wil learn to just let things go !!! Sending hugs--Hopefully the weekend will go well !!
  5. meowbunny

    meowbunny New Member

    Can't say I blame him for lashing out. Imagine being the victim and being punished for it. On top of that, I'm sure he's being teased about having an aide escort him to class. Poor kid.

    I understand your frustration and fears. I hope the school cuts him some slack considering everything he's been through.

    Many hugs.
  6. Star*

    Star* call 911........call 911

    Auntie Star is puttin on her combat boots, and coming to see him at school and WE are going to get some things straight with some punk kids. I can't wait till you move either - and I don't even go to school there.

    If he does NOT get suspended -
    Call an emergency IEP meeting and get him a shadow. (A body guard of sorts) to help him if he gets upset in class

    SD has to pay for it.

    Hugs -

    Glad you are using the vent system instead of the implode system. What is the implode system you ask? Think Gremlins movie - now think Gremlin in a microwave. Venting MUCH better. lol
  7. Wiped Out

    Wiped Out Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Sw-Thanks for the hugs!

    Gvcmom-The school, I think, is trying. The problem is the district just doesn't provide enough staffing. Believe it or not, the school he is in has several children who have major problems-some being violent several times a day. The district has their formula for providing support and that's it.

    Jannie-I'm sure he is frustrated with all that has been going on. I sure wish he would learn to vent those frustrations differently or better yet like you said let it go.

    Mb-Thanks for the hugs. It is a lot for him and even though we've tried to show him different ways to let things out I think he just can't control it at this point when something makes him angry.

    Star-We are setting up an iep meeting-unfortunately since husband and I have so little sick time we can't do it during the day and the only time everyone could meet is Wed. the 16th. Wish we could get it in sooner. Your right-venting is much better than imploding-thanks for the visual-lol!
  8. TerryJ2

    TerryJ2 Well-Known Member

    {{hugs}} Actually, the part that got me was when you said you were tired of using up your sick days on your difficult child. That pretty much says it all, almost a metaphor for how they take over our lives. Wish I had some advice.
  9. Christy

    Christy New Member

    Why do things always have a way of going form bad to worse? Hang in there, you'll get through this, even if it's one step forward and two steps backward.

    My son had two good days in a row at the psychiatric hospital and they were talking discharge on Monday and when we went Occupational Therapist (OT) visit last night, he had just had an incident where he hit a staff member. Now, I don't know what will happen.

    It's heart-wrenching and emotionally exhausting being a difficult child parent. I hope things start looking up for your family soon.

    Take care,
  10. Wiped Out

    Wiped Out Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Terry-Thanks for the hugs. It is a sad metaphor isn't it?

    Christy-I'm sorry your difficult child had a bad incident yesterday. Hopefully they will be sure he gets the help he needs and they don't release him before he's ready. I know I feel they release our son too soon this last time-not that we didn't miss him, he just wasn't ready. It sure is heart wrenching and emotionally exhausting. Thanks for the good thoughts. Hugs.
  11. Big Bad Kitty

    Big Bad Kitty lolcat

    I immediately thought what MB had already voiced. That poor kid must feel like he has a bullseye on his back at that school.

    I can totally see why he would lash out.

    Hugs to you, weary mamma.
  12. timer lady

    timer lady Queen of Hearts

    Ah, Sharon - I'm so sorry. I wish that psychiatrists & tdocs & everything else made a difference for difficult child.

    Your baby boy is such an enigma for everyone - he's got you all running in circles & no one knows why.

    You're my hero for hanging on the way you do. And working full time on top of it. Yup, my hero! :cheerleader: I'm your cheerleader. You go girl!