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I raised him right, right? Self blame and the pursuit of happiness.
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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 650400" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Your post is familiar Nikimoto, from my own experience and from what I read here. I'm sorry you've going through it, I know how depleting, exhausting and crazy-making it is.</p><p></p><p>It takes a long time for it to "sink in" as you put it, these are our kids and we love them and we want to offer them the best along with our love. However, sometimes our kids go off the rails, regardless of our parenting ......and they are on their own path, whether we agree or not, it is their path. Now that your son is 18, there is little you can do.</p><p></p><p>Abuse is abuse, regardless of who the abuser is, in some cases, it is our own child. That's hard to see and even harder to accept, but you seem to have a handle on it. </p><p></p><p>Yes, we worry. But in my opinion, you have made the appropriate choice. The best advice I can offer you is to make sure you get support. It's a tough path we're on, Al Anon and Narc Anon help many of our members here, or a therapist, a parent group, a safe place you can go to receive the compassion and support we need when we are forced into choices which go against our own parenting.</p><p></p><p>I'm glad you're here, keep posting it helps. </p><p></p><p>You may want to write a signature, like you see we've all done, it helps us to remember you and your story......you can do it by clicking on your screen name in the upper right hand corner, click on signature, write it and remember to save it. Thanks.</p><p></p><p>There is a good article on detachment at the bottom of my post here, you may find it interesting.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 650400, member: 13542"] Your post is familiar Nikimoto, from my own experience and from what I read here. I'm sorry you've going through it, I know how depleting, exhausting and crazy-making it is. It takes a long time for it to "sink in" as you put it, these are our kids and we love them and we want to offer them the best along with our love. However, sometimes our kids go off the rails, regardless of our parenting ......and they are on their own path, whether we agree or not, it is their path. Now that your son is 18, there is little you can do. Abuse is abuse, regardless of who the abuser is, in some cases, it is our own child. That's hard to see and even harder to accept, but you seem to have a handle on it. Yes, we worry. But in my opinion, you have made the appropriate choice. The best advice I can offer you is to make sure you get support. It's a tough path we're on, Al Anon and Narc Anon help many of our members here, or a therapist, a parent group, a safe place you can go to receive the compassion and support we need when we are forced into choices which go against our own parenting. I'm glad you're here, keep posting it helps. You may want to write a signature, like you see we've all done, it helps us to remember you and your story......you can do it by clicking on your screen name in the upper right hand corner, click on signature, write it and remember to save it. Thanks. There is a good article on detachment at the bottom of my post here, you may find it interesting. [/QUOTE]
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