ColleenB
Active Member
So Son has actually been doing OK. He is still in art school and he even participated in a Halloween activity because I saw it on their Facebook page.... so I was feeling like maybe just maybe he is finally getting it.
Last Sunday night he even went to a haunted house with me and his cousin and it was fun! He was sober and kind and told me his actions the last few years were all his own and not my failt( first time admitting that)
Well today we get a phone call from a strange number and he says he lost his phone and wanted us to know he is alive. My husband felt he was slurring his words and asked if he was drunk. Son got angry and hung up on him. I called the number back as I wanted to hear his voice to see if he was using. I too found he sounded slurred and reminded him he only got angry at us when he is using. He told me he was mad and that he was sober. He said he was stuck in another town about an hour away and can’t find his phone. He told me not to call the number again as it wasn’t his phone. I told him to call if he needed to be picked up. Done.
Of course husband is very upset and reacting to this. I am actually quite calm. I am not jumping on his train to destruction. I am here if he asks for help but I am not going to call him or try to track him down. He is an addict and until he can deal with his own demons I can’t do anything.
He knows he is loved and if he needs us he will call back. My husband of course is like “do I go on my business trip?” I said YES. We have got to stop riding his roller coaster and stay away from this emotional reaction that only hurts us and never makes him any better.
I am so over this. I love him and hope he can be ok, but right now, today I am not drowning in his mess. I have been down that road and I can’t live that way.
I have a job I love, a wonderful marriage and people who love me. I can’t keep pulling them down every time he falls.
Sigh.....
Last Sunday night he even went to a haunted house with me and his cousin and it was fun! He was sober and kind and told me his actions the last few years were all his own and not my failt( first time admitting that)
Well today we get a phone call from a strange number and he says he lost his phone and wanted us to know he is alive. My husband felt he was slurring his words and asked if he was drunk. Son got angry and hung up on him. I called the number back as I wanted to hear his voice to see if he was using. I too found he sounded slurred and reminded him he only got angry at us when he is using. He told me he was mad and that he was sober. He said he was stuck in another town about an hour away and can’t find his phone. He told me not to call the number again as it wasn’t his phone. I told him to call if he needed to be picked up. Done.
Of course husband is very upset and reacting to this. I am actually quite calm. I am not jumping on his train to destruction. I am here if he asks for help but I am not going to call him or try to track him down. He is an addict and until he can deal with his own demons I can’t do anything.
He knows he is loved and if he needs us he will call back. My husband of course is like “do I go on my business trip?” I said YES. We have got to stop riding his roller coaster and stay away from this emotional reaction that only hurts us and never makes him any better.
I am so over this. I love him and hope he can be ok, but right now, today I am not drowning in his mess. I have been down that road and I can’t live that way.
I have a job I love, a wonderful marriage and people who love me. I can’t keep pulling them down every time he falls.
Sigh.....