I actually had an appointment set up. Just so happened that this phone stuff all came into the open over the weekend. You know when you screw something up at work, or do something and all of a sudden realize what you did how you get this overwhelming hot rush and sick feeling in your gut??? Well, that is what I feel like. I showed the lady the phone statement that lists the date and time and name of the video clips. 138 in 4 days. From 1/5 - 1/9 She really did talk to me, but made one comment that has me really concerned. Did he share any of these with difficult child? Because if he did CPS will certainly be involved and he will go to jail. I never would dream of him showing difficult child. Then I never would of ever thought he would do this. I did ask him about one clip named "i kissed the dog" I made a comment about the DOGS. He said that was on Utube and he showed it to difficult child. I looked at the phone statement and yes, that one was on utube. The fact that he showed difficult child anything from his phone has me concerned. difficult child see's a therapist there now also, and she said he is a very good therapist and will talk to difficult child. Meanwhile, they set up an appointment for myself and H wednesday night. Again tonight when i got up for work he was in the basement on the couch. I usually don't go down there cause I just don't want to see him. But today when i came home from work i went through difficult child's folder. All the missing work I made him do last week is still in his folder. Never turned it in. Had several pages of math homework and some study guides. Finals are this week and quarter ends. I told difficult child to PLEASE get off the computer game and do homework. Study. Before I left for work i checked his folder. Did maybe 1/2 the math problems on each sheet. Did not study. I went down and asked husband if he looked over difficult child's homework. He said, "he said he did it" HE ALWAYS says he did it. You have to LOOK at it. Again he didn't do it. I asked if he studied with difficult child for finals. No. I just looked at him and said something nasty about his video clips and his pants.... Then noticed Chloe (our dog) her dog food is gone. She is on prescription dog food from the vet due to her weight and thyroid issues. I asked him if she had any food. He said she ran out the other day !!!???? WTH. So I asked him if he ever thought of going to get her some food. His reply -----"I don't know HOW" --- What, if I died the dog would never eat again? You go to the vet and you ask for food. See, that is nothing, I do absolutely everything...I mean everything. He can't even buy dog food. I did tell him we have an appointment Wednesday evening. I told him he has no choice in this matter he will go. No reply. I went to veiw the usage of his phone tonight. It hasn't been updated. But I went to veiw txt msg's. He has 16 txt's withing a 4 hour period. NOT from a phone number, more like a code. 0000001111 Is it possible to have txt's sent to your phone from sites, like dirty talking or something? I couldn't find his phone when I left for work. I am sure he has it close to him, like you know, his hand.....So, I took his charger. I know he has a car charger somewhere but I don't know where. I can't deal with this. I just can't. My head is spinning and my gut is hurting. I just can't do this. difficult child is suffering from lack of support. husband does take him places, friends, gym, baseball, mall...but no support on life. No instructions to study. No requests to get OFF the computer. I want to THANK everyone for the support and nice things. Thank goodness for all of you. your responses are what kept me from completely losing it. But that sick feeling is there, and I am shaking and scared. I have no idea where this is leading. And what do you tell difficult child?