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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 633745" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Ersi, this stuff is hard on us, get some support for yourself. Therapy, a parent group, CoDa 12 step groups, do it for YOU. Letting go is hard enough, but when we are forced into it because our kids leave home, there is a lot we go through and it so helps to have someone to talk to, to give you insights and compassion, empathy and understanding, tools and resources to help you to cope with the loss you feel.......all the feelings you are going through........be kind to yourself and find a supportive environment so you can learn to detach enough so that you can find peace of mind amidst the choices your daughter is making. It is a very tall order and it takes time and it takes a lot of support, but you can do it.............</p><p></p><p>We don't just turn off our parenting abruptly as has happened to you.......it is usually a tad more gradual and expected. You experienced a big loss and it was abrupt, it is no wonder you are having a hard time of it. There are so many emotions to deal with, sadness, guilt, resentment, anger, bewilderment, grief...........it helps a lot if we can have a guide through all of that, it will make it a lot easier on you. Give that to yourself, you deserve that. </p><p></p><p>Keep posting, it really helps. I'm sorry you're going through this..........you're not alone, we're all here with you.........hang in there and take very good care of YOU.......</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 633745, member: 13542"] Ersi, this stuff is hard on us, get some support for yourself. Therapy, a parent group, CoDa 12 step groups, do it for YOU. Letting go is hard enough, but when we are forced into it because our kids leave home, there is a lot we go through and it so helps to have someone to talk to, to give you insights and compassion, empathy and understanding, tools and resources to help you to cope with the loss you feel.......all the feelings you are going through........be kind to yourself and find a supportive environment so you can learn to detach enough so that you can find peace of mind amidst the choices your daughter is making. It is a very tall order and it takes time and it takes a lot of support, but you can do it............. We don't just turn off our parenting abruptly as has happened to you.......it is usually a tad more gradual and expected. You experienced a big loss and it was abrupt, it is no wonder you are having a hard time of it. There are so many emotions to deal with, sadness, guilt, resentment, anger, bewilderment, grief...........it helps a lot if we can have a guide through all of that, it will make it a lot easier on you. Give that to yourself, you deserve that. Keep posting, it really helps. I'm sorry you're going through this..........you're not alone, we're all here with you.........hang in there and take very good care of YOU....... [/QUOTE]
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