hi so i screwed up. i'm mad at myself as usual. difficult child is melting down. i told easy child because ofcourse she feels cheated, angry etc. for the life with-difficult child. so husband and i decided to let her have friends in the basement and utilize it. it's unfinished there's no insolation, no flooring just cement. we carpeted a room size area for her a year ago she thought she wanted her room down there. i'm sitting here right now listening to 7 teenagers, rap music coming up thru my living room floor as difficult child cries over eating a slice of pizza. i dont' know what i was thinking. i am trying to find the fine line to give both kids what they need. yet reality is our house is way way too small. it just is what it is. so 3 days after kid gets home i go and approve this. husband and i gave her rules and stuff ofcourse. i'm not mad at her i'm mad at me. what was i thinking?? their just being normally. yet the base is vibrating even though music isnt' that loud and i can hear every conversation their having. everything affects difficult child everything. we went to get pizza tonight she saw 3 boys from her school and than this here and boom that's it. behavioral yea maybe some. bipolar yea i'm listening to the experts of 5 years that have diagnosis'd her. there is no filter on my little girl whatsoever. just had to vent this one out. thanks.