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<blockquote data-quote="Lil" data-source="post: 659361" data-attributes="member: 17309"><p>It's SO much easier to be strong long-distance. I can be (at times) made of steel when I don't hear from my son at all. I can be strong telling him NO on the phone. But put him in front of me, when he's doing the "I'm so sad no one loves me I have nothing." and I crumble if I'm not very, very careful. Sometimes even then. </p><p> </p><p></p><p> </p><p>Not that it really matters now since you are leaving soon...but maybe it would help to keep firmly in mind that you are a guest in their home. Would you change important rules in your home for people coming to visit? Well, maybe you would...but should they expect you to? </p><p> </p><p>Best in this case is to visit Difficult Child elsewhere. Take him to dinner. Go to the park. Short visits may well be better anyway. </p><p> </p><p></p><p> </p><p>This is sad. I'm so sorry. </p><p> </p><p></p><p> </p><p>Has it? Maybe you wish you'd have behaved differently...but you KNOW what you did and you recognize that it was enabling. That's something.</p><p> </p><p>I hope your last day is a good one.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lil, post: 659361, member: 17309"] It's SO much easier to be strong long-distance. I can be (at times) made of steel when I don't hear from my son at all. I can be strong telling him NO on the phone. But put him in front of me, when he's doing the "I'm so sad no one loves me I have nothing." and I crumble if I'm not very, very careful. Sometimes even then. Not that it really matters now since you are leaving soon...but maybe it would help to keep firmly in mind that you are a guest in their home. Would you change important rules in your home for people coming to visit? Well, maybe you would...but should they expect you to? Best in this case is to visit Difficult Child elsewhere. Take him to dinner. Go to the park. Short visits may well be better anyway. This is sad. I'm so sorry. Has it? Maybe you wish you'd have behaved differently...but you KNOW what you did and you recognize that it was enabling. That's something. I hope your last day is a good one. [/QUOTE]
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