Spoke to Difficult Child yesterday and everything seemed fine - upbeat almost. She wanted me to know she was no longer staying where she was and would be "visiting" some friends for awhile. Even invited me to come see her. I immediately had a stone in the pit of my stomach, knowing there was "more to the story." But I have learned not to "dig" and not to ask for problems. We had a good conversation which ended well. Today, the other shoe dropped. I find out that she is not just "visiting" but is moving in with these people and under the premise that I "kicked her out of my house." She has not lived in my house in almost two years!!!! I have no doubt that she caused problems where she was staying and THEY kicked her out, but she tells people that I did? And these people she is staying with are very, very nice, but are in no way capable of dealing with all of her issues. I would bet anything they aren't even aware of ALL of her issues. And my heart is just broken that she is so willing to smear me in order to gain sympathy and a new place to go. She has severe physical and mental disabilities, as well as drug addictions, and truly needs to be in residential treatment (she refuses - which is why she was not allowed to come here; until you deal with and face your problems, you cannot come here). But I have sacrificed and put myself in financial debt trying to help her, advocated for her, found resources for her (that she refuses to take advantage of), and no gratitude, no appreciation. How hurt I am that she could talk to me in such an normal, non-confrontational tone, even seeming upbeat about her "visit," all the while knowing she had told this terrible lie about me to them, making me seem this uncaring, unloving mother who threw her disabled child out on the streets. I am a wreck. How can she be so heartless? So cruel?