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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 677910" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>Walrus, I am sorry for your heart ache.</p><p> </p><p>It is the same for me, every time. </p><p>Though my two have never been diagnosed with anything,</p><p> I am sure somewhere down the line through drug use, there were and are some mental health issues.</p><p> I am the "reason" for everything wrong in their lives. </p><p>No amount of apologies for mistakes made, will get through to them. </p><p>(of course I made mistakes, nobody is perfect)</p><p></p><p>Even though I have three other kids that love and care about me.</p><p></p><p>They have decided in their minds that I was a terrible mother. </p><p>Something is very, very wrong there.</p><p></p><p> My Tornado has three kids of her own, and has put them through awful ordeals. I do not think she even looks at her treatment of her own children. She is constantly shouting, not too much tenderness there. One can only imagine how these kids will view her, when they grow up.</p><p></p><p>My two have probably bad mouthed me to just about anyone who will listen. It hurts. What hurts more, is the mistreatment and disrespect when they are around. It is horrible. I do not like it, and truthfully, I do not like them. What a thing to write, or say. I do not like them. They are jerks. JERKS, Walrus.</p><p></p><p> You could be brief, and just say that there have been difficult times, and you love her, but she cannot live with you, and hasn't lived with you for a while now.</p><p> BOOM, that's it. </p><p> Well, I guess they will find out soon enough. It is their decision, you can't control what someone else does.</p><p>You have your principles, and that is good. While being hurt by your daughter, you still look out for her future, not retaliatory or vindictive. You stand by your honor, good for you.</p><p></p><p>I am different. I am somewhat open about what is going on. I figure it is pretty obvious already. I don't say everything, but I will share some stuff. Sometimes, people share what they are dealing with their own d cs.</p><p>Meth is epidemic over here. It is sad.</p><p></p><p>All in all, these four months on this forum have taught me a lot. I know that I cannot have my two d cs living with me, it is not only the enabling, it is also that there is no reciprocation of love or respect.</p><p>That, is unacceptable.</p><p>I am an opportunity. That is all.</p><p>I have had to come to accept that. I can't change the way they feel.</p><p></p><p>Today, I do not want to cry any more over them.</p><p>So many tears, so many years of this. It will not change the reality of it.</p><p>Another day? I might be crying. It is all so up and down.</p><p> It is hard Walrus, a hard, hard thing we are dealing with.</p><p></p><p>I am sorry Walrus, that you have been hurt by your daughters heartlessness and cruelty.</p><p>I think it was Cedar, who wrote "there is no pain, like the pain an adult child can inflict upon their mother."</p><p></p><p>This is so very true. I have been turned inside out with the pain. Excoriated.</p><p> It is excruciating. I have been so raw and exhausted from it.</p><p></p><p>I have to pick myself up.</p><p>It does not look like it is going to get any better for awhile.</p><p></p><p>I talked with my Hoku this morning and she was telling me she had been feeling depressed because "her sisters will not change and our family has been torn apart by all of this."</p><p></p><p>I told her that it is what it is and in the mean time, we are family, we have to be what family we can. </p><p>I am sad that this has affected my well children.</p><p>Their sisters do not care. They will do what they do.</p><p></p><p>So, we all have to pick up the pieces and carry on.</p><p></p><p>I wish I could just wave a magic wand and fix it for<em> all of us.</em> If only......</p><p></p><p>I am truly sorry for your heartache and tears Walrus. I do not blame you one bit for feeling as you do. It is the ultimate betrayal, all of this........</p><p></p><p>Take care and vent away, my heart goes out to yours, </p><p>you are strong, and will feel better in time.</p><p>One day at a time......</p><p></p><p>(((HUGS)))</p><p>leafy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 677910, member: 19522"] Walrus, I am sorry for your heart ache. It is the same for me, every time. Though my two have never been diagnosed with anything, I am sure somewhere down the line through drug use, there were and are some mental health issues. I am the "reason" for everything wrong in their lives. No amount of apologies for mistakes made, will get through to them. (of course I made mistakes, nobody is perfect) Even though I have three other kids that love and care about me. They have decided in their minds that I was a terrible mother. Something is very, very wrong there. My Tornado has three kids of her own, and has put them through awful ordeals. I do not think she even looks at her treatment of her own children. She is constantly shouting, not too much tenderness there. One can only imagine how these kids will view her, when they grow up. My two have probably bad mouthed me to just about anyone who will listen. It hurts. What hurts more, is the mistreatment and disrespect when they are around. It is horrible. I do not like it, and truthfully, I do not like them. What a thing to write, or say. I do not like them. They are jerks. JERKS, Walrus. You could be brief, and just say that there have been difficult times, and you love her, but she cannot live with you, and hasn't lived with you for a while now. BOOM, that's it. Well, I guess they will find out soon enough. It is their decision, you can't control what someone else does. You have your principles, and that is good. While being hurt by your daughter, you still look out for her future, not retaliatory or vindictive. You stand by your honor, good for you. I am different. I am somewhat open about what is going on. I figure it is pretty obvious already. I don't say everything, but I will share some stuff. Sometimes, people share what they are dealing with their own d cs. Meth is epidemic over here. It is sad. All in all, these four months on this forum have taught me a lot. I know that I cannot have my two d cs living with me, it is not only the enabling, it is also that there is no reciprocation of love or respect. That, is unacceptable. I am an opportunity. That is all. I have had to come to accept that. I can't change the way they feel. Today, I do not want to cry any more over them. So many tears, so many years of this. It will not change the reality of it. Another day? I might be crying. It is all so up and down. It is hard Walrus, a hard, hard thing we are dealing with. I am sorry Walrus, that you have been hurt by your daughters heartlessness and cruelty. I think it was Cedar, who wrote "there is no pain, like the pain an adult child can inflict upon their mother." This is so very true. I have been turned inside out with the pain. Excoriated. It is excruciating. I have been so raw and exhausted from it. I have to pick myself up. It does not look like it is going to get any better for awhile. I talked with my Hoku this morning and she was telling me she had been feeling depressed because "her sisters will not change and our family has been torn apart by all of this." I told her that it is what it is and in the mean time, we are family, we have to be what family we can. I am sad that this has affected my well children. Their sisters do not care. They will do what they do. So, we all have to pick up the pieces and carry on. I wish I could just wave a magic wand and fix it for[I] all of us.[/I] If only...... I am truly sorry for your heartache and tears Walrus. I do not blame you one bit for feeling as you do. It is the ultimate betrayal, all of this........ Take care and vent away, my heart goes out to yours, you are strong, and will feel better in time. One day at a time...... (((HUGS))) leafy [/QUOTE]
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