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I still haven't seen my ex-easy child grown son
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 65684" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Thanks, all. My gut tells me it's the wife combined with his eerie religion. I hope I don't sound anti-Christian. I'm one myself. I don't even consider my son and his wife a Christian though--I have never been to a church that almost has a cultlike mentality. I don't believe his church does either--I think HE and his FRIENDS and, most importantly, his WIFE does. But they see her side of the family all the time. My son has come to identify strongly with his Chinese heritage--he doesn't even eat American food. It's very strange. Although he was always a very well-behaved, good kid, he was always strange. He was too adult, too intelligent, too responsible. He reads books about bettering himself--was self-help book obsessed for a while. THe book "Boundaries" which I curse to the skies is his real Bible. I did read the book and don't see how he got what he did out of it, but he took a class about this book and that's when everything changed. He told us he can't be close to us anymore, and claims the book explains that he needs to set extreme boundaries. Um, we don't even live in the same state as him. We saw him maybe five times a year, and I called him once a week. I don't believe we put a stranglehold on him and am not sure what he meant by this, but he never really explained. He said he wasn't the guy we thought he was, and that we didn't really know him, and maybe he's right. He certainly isn't acting like a nice guy now!!! And he is very glued to this wife--it's not even just that he loves her--it's hard to explain. He is unsure if they even want kids--I think he just needs her. (Note: I personally hope he has no kids because I know he believes in physical punishment as part of the Bible's teachings, and this bothers me A LOT. I never spanked him. EVER. Hehe...I feel like spanking him now). At any rate, I think maybe his wife, the extremity of his religious beliefs, and perhaps his own fatigue with being the "nice guy" all come into play. Plus he wasn't adopted until he was six so I don't think he bonded with us as much as the others did, or as much as we bonded with him. </p><p>On a more grim note, I think Scott wishes we were rich and brilliant, like him. He didn't really want to show his wife our humble house. I think it embarassed him. He is very materialistic. He himself has a huge home in an upscale NW Suburban Chicago suburb, makes a fortune, and has two cars (a Lexus SUV with all the bells and whistles) and an Intrepid. He paid cash. He claims he is a millionaire. I believe him. He's a computer genius. Unfortunately, his adoptive family (us) are just normal, blue-collar folks. </p><p>At any rate, the feedback makes me feel better. Thanks!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 65684, member: 1550"] Thanks, all. My gut tells me it's the wife combined with his eerie religion. I hope I don't sound anti-Christian. I'm one myself. I don't even consider my son and his wife a Christian though--I have never been to a church that almost has a cultlike mentality. I don't believe his church does either--I think HE and his FRIENDS and, most importantly, his WIFE does. But they see her side of the family all the time. My son has come to identify strongly with his Chinese heritage--he doesn't even eat American food. It's very strange. Although he was always a very well-behaved, good kid, he was always strange. He was too adult, too intelligent, too responsible. He reads books about bettering himself--was self-help book obsessed for a while. THe book "Boundaries" which I curse to the skies is his real Bible. I did read the book and don't see how he got what he did out of it, but he took a class about this book and that's when everything changed. He told us he can't be close to us anymore, and claims the book explains that he needs to set extreme boundaries. Um, we don't even live in the same state as him. We saw him maybe five times a year, and I called him once a week. I don't believe we put a stranglehold on him and am not sure what he meant by this, but he never really explained. He said he wasn't the guy we thought he was, and that we didn't really know him, and maybe he's right. He certainly isn't acting like a nice guy now!!! And he is very glued to this wife--it's not even just that he loves her--it's hard to explain. He is unsure if they even want kids--I think he just needs her. (Note: I personally hope he has no kids because I know he believes in physical punishment as part of the Bible's teachings, and this bothers me A LOT. I never spanked him. EVER. Hehe...I feel like spanking him now). At any rate, I think maybe his wife, the extremity of his religious beliefs, and perhaps his own fatigue with being the "nice guy" all come into play. Plus he wasn't adopted until he was six so I don't think he bonded with us as much as the others did, or as much as we bonded with him. On a more grim note, I think Scott wishes we were rich and brilliant, like him. He didn't really want to show his wife our humble house. I think it embarassed him. He is very materialistic. He himself has a huge home in an upscale NW Suburban Chicago suburb, makes a fortune, and has two cars (a Lexus SUV with all the bells and whistles) and an Intrepid. He paid cash. He claims he is a millionaire. I believe him. He's a computer genius. Unfortunately, his adoptive family (us) are just normal, blue-collar folks. At any rate, the feedback makes me feel better. Thanks! [/QUOTE]
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