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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 626834" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>JKF---I hope today will be a better day. You are grieving as we must do. As you go through the stages of grief take comfort in that very human and necessary cycle that is healthy and healing. Just accept where you are at any given moment and be so very kind and gentle to yourself. Right now it is about YOU. This is very hard and it feels so huge and final like some big boundary has been crossed and you can never go back to how things were. </p><p></p><p>I remember feeling that way the first time he was arrested and we were called by him from the side of the road with the police standing there ready to take him to jail. The police allowed us to take his car instead of impounding it. </p><p></p><p>I was sick and dizzy with the whole experience. It was a nightmare surely and I would wake up soon. That time it was possession of scheduled narcotics and traffic violations. Misdemeanors. Who would have known what was to come....theft, public intoxication, two felonies for selling etc. Each time it was getting used to the new, worse normal and the surreal knowledge that this is my son doing things I could have never imagined and these are just the things he has gotten caught for. Somehow JKF stealing from me, his dad and the neighbors was almost worse----those things he has never been charged with. </p><p></p><p>At first we visited weekly, wrote letters, bought and sent books, put money on his account and hired lawyers. This was our precious son in jail and it was almost intolerable to bear. The minute he got out I forced him into rehab and put the $6000 tab on my credit card. </p><p></p><p>Over these past three years----it was nearly three years ago the first time---I have changed with each experience of him. </p><p></p><p>So right now there are no shoulds for you. Do what YOU must do to survive this, get some peace and sleep at night.</p><p></p><p>I pray that somehow someway this is a turning point for him and he can do some work on himself---whereever he ends up. </p><p></p><p>My heart is going out to you this morning. Please keep talking to us. We get it and we care. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Sent using ConductDisorders mobile app</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 626834, member: 17542"] JKF---I hope today will be a better day. You are grieving as we must do. As you go through the stages of grief take comfort in that very human and necessary cycle that is healthy and healing. Just accept where you are at any given moment and be so very kind and gentle to yourself. Right now it is about YOU. This is very hard and it feels so huge and final like some big boundary has been crossed and you can never go back to how things were. I remember feeling that way the first time he was arrested and we were called by him from the side of the road with the police standing there ready to take him to jail. The police allowed us to take his car instead of impounding it. I was sick and dizzy with the whole experience. It was a nightmare surely and I would wake up soon. That time it was possession of scheduled narcotics and traffic violations. Misdemeanors. Who would have known what was to come....theft, public intoxication, two felonies for selling etc. Each time it was getting used to the new, worse normal and the surreal knowledge that this is my son doing things I could have never imagined and these are just the things he has gotten caught for. Somehow JKF stealing from me, his dad and the neighbors was almost worse----those things he has never been charged with. At first we visited weekly, wrote letters, bought and sent books, put money on his account and hired lawyers. This was our precious son in jail and it was almost intolerable to bear. The minute he got out I forced him into rehab and put the $6000 tab on my credit card. Over these past three years----it was nearly three years ago the first time---I have changed with each experience of him. So right now there are no shoulds for you. Do what YOU must do to survive this, get some peace and sleep at night. I pray that somehow someway this is a turning point for him and he can do some work on himself---whereever he ends up. My heart is going out to you this morning. Please keep talking to us. We get it and we care. Sent using ConductDisorders mobile app [/QUOTE]
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