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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 680819" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>LMS I understand your concern. To be honest with you up until recently our wills were written so that her portion would be in a trust with our other daughter as trustee, to be used for her education or training or living accommodations. And then my father died. While his will was moot because he had nothing to probate, he did have several life insurance policies. I was always on them until I guess a few years ago when he took my name off and left everything to my sister. Long story, not worth sharing, but it hurt me very very much. Not because of the money but because of the symbolism behind that.</p><p></p><p>Right after dad's funeral I asked my husband to have our wills changed to split everything down the middle, no restrictions. I never wanted my children to feel like I felt. I decided since I would be dead I wouldn't know what she did with the money and it was more important that she understood that we loved her and her sister the same.</p><p></p><p>I understand why your husband said what he did because I said many things over the years in an attempt to break through to her and make her stop her destructive ways. It never worked, it always backfired.</p><p></p><p>I hope you don't take what I said as criticism because like I said we did the exact same thing, just wanted to share my hurt over the will thing to give you another perspective. I will always wonder what I did to have my dad reject me like he did, and it will never make sense to me.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 680819, member: 59"] LMS I understand your concern. To be honest with you up until recently our wills were written so that her portion would be in a trust with our other daughter as trustee, to be used for her education or training or living accommodations. And then my father died. While his will was moot because he had nothing to probate, he did have several life insurance policies. I was always on them until I guess a few years ago when he took my name off and left everything to my sister. Long story, not worth sharing, but it hurt me very very much. Not because of the money but because of the symbolism behind that. Right after dad's funeral I asked my husband to have our wills changed to split everything down the middle, no restrictions. I never wanted my children to feel like I felt. I decided since I would be dead I wouldn't know what she did with the money and it was more important that she understood that we loved her and her sister the same. I understand why your husband said what he did because I said many things over the years in an attempt to break through to her and make her stop her destructive ways. It never worked, it always backfired. I hope you don't take what I said as criticism because like I said we did the exact same thing, just wanted to share my hurt over the will thing to give you another perspective. I will always wonder what I did to have my dad reject me like he did, and it will never make sense to me. [/QUOTE]
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