Hi there:
I have a now 6 year old daughter who I think may have ODD. First, a little bit of history. For the last couple of years, we have been dealing with some issues regarding clothing feeling "weird". It got pretty severe, but through help from an child occupational therapist, it has gotten better (but not perfect.) He believes that the problem with the clothing is a sensory processing problem. For the most part, I agree. However, clothes don't always bug her. There are times when I know that she will be more bothered, like when she is experiencing any stress or feeling rushed.
Now, on to the ODD. She gets mad soooo easily! Generally, she is a giving and loving child who is easy to get along with. But then, a switch trips and she falls apart. She disagrees with us quite abit, not on big stuff usually. However, she is just particular and notices if we aren't accurate when talking about anything with her. For example, if we are talking about something and we describe it a little differently than we had the first time, she will catch this and bring it up!
We think that she'll make a great lawyer someday, she almost always catches the loopholes. For example, we asked her to not play in the dirt with her hands. I came back to find her playing in the dirt with her feet. I reminded her that we had said not to play in the dirt. She replied, "I'm not touching it with my hands." and "Also, it's gravel not dirt." So, there is a need to be direct and specific with her. These disagreements happen more frequently when she is tired or feeling rushed.
When my husband tries to impose a taking away of toys with her when she is feeling pushed, she reacts by escalating the encounter. "Fine take it away." Then he escalates to taking away the toy for longer. "She says, fine take it away for three days." Next thing you know, she has lost the toy for a month or more. I've told my husband that this has to stop. I can see in her eyes that she doesn't want this really to happen, she just can't stop herself. He has agreed to try some different techniques. (On a side note, she can also end up laughing while arguing, but it sounds more like a panicked laugh than a joyful one.)
Any comments anyone?
Thanks Trish
I have a now 6 year old daughter who I think may have ODD. First, a little bit of history. For the last couple of years, we have been dealing with some issues regarding clothing feeling "weird". It got pretty severe, but through help from an child occupational therapist, it has gotten better (but not perfect.) He believes that the problem with the clothing is a sensory processing problem. For the most part, I agree. However, clothes don't always bug her. There are times when I know that she will be more bothered, like when she is experiencing any stress or feeling rushed.
Now, on to the ODD. She gets mad soooo easily! Generally, she is a giving and loving child who is easy to get along with. But then, a switch trips and she falls apart. She disagrees with us quite abit, not on big stuff usually. However, she is just particular and notices if we aren't accurate when talking about anything with her. For example, if we are talking about something and we describe it a little differently than we had the first time, she will catch this and bring it up!
We think that she'll make a great lawyer someday, she almost always catches the loopholes. For example, we asked her to not play in the dirt with her hands. I came back to find her playing in the dirt with her feet. I reminded her that we had said not to play in the dirt. She replied, "I'm not touching it with my hands." and "Also, it's gravel not dirt." So, there is a need to be direct and specific with her. These disagreements happen more frequently when she is tired or feeling rushed.
When my husband tries to impose a taking away of toys with her when she is feeling pushed, she reacts by escalating the encounter. "Fine take it away." Then he escalates to taking away the toy for longer. "She says, fine take it away for three days." Next thing you know, she has lost the toy for a month or more. I've told my husband that this has to stop. I can see in her eyes that she doesn't want this really to happen, she just can't stop herself. He has agreed to try some different techniques. (On a side note, she can also end up laughing while arguing, but it sounds more like a panicked laugh than a joyful one.)
Any comments anyone?
Thanks Trish