allhaileris
Crumbling Family Rock
Both husband and I have seen daughter once, husband saw her yesterday and confirmed what I saw, tired, headache, not eating right (too much top ramen). Social worker said she's been very disobedient, has been lying, and yesterday got caught cutting off a piece of her hair 
She doesn't like where she's at, and is apparently acting kind of racist (I have no clue where that came from, it's quite embarrassing, she's never said anything like that before). She says she desperately wants to go home, but is still scared of husband. It's the one piece in the puzzle that they can't solve, why she's scared of husband. We both think it's because she doesn't want to be told what to do, or be disciplined in any way. husband said when he saw her she was acting normal to him, not scared in any way, she just asked him to be nicer.
Yesterday we both met with the official social worker. He doesn't seem too bad and I could tell from his facial expressions that he believes us, that she hurt herself. I showed him the pics I took the day after she did it, pointed out the hand mark (which I used photoshop to outline) and the fact her "defensive" hand didn't have a mark on it. He said he can't do anything to get her home sooner, it's up to the judge (April 12th). I told him that daughter's boyfriend's mom had seen her hit herself too, so he's going to call her and ask her about it (she's a good friend, she'll be constructive and helpful).
He said one of three things will happen, 1. that they'll just drop the case and leave us alone (which he mentioned first), or if they have to have another trial after the judicial trial, they'd then 2. send her back home (I assume with stipulations) or 3. keep her and set up a a reunification program.
He asked about the pot, I told him that in the past we were threatened with eviction if we smoked outside, and I did it in my bedroom, and that I have a prescrip. Now I have a locked garage that has a locked closet, no access at all for her, or to see me smoking. He left it at that and just wanted a copy of my prescription.
So, I'm seeing that they're seeing our side, but it's all in the hands of the judge. We have witnesses, articles, and her own writing as proof.
They also said that the dietary restrictions is the most he's ever seen. Um, no! She's only dye free and vegetarian. The place she's stay at has no idea what to feed her. They're just taking the meat out of their meals and not giving her anything but carbs. I'm bringing her a giant plate of bean tacos and hopefully cole slaw tomorrow when I see her.
She doesn't like where she's at, and is apparently acting kind of racist (I have no clue where that came from, it's quite embarrassing, she's never said anything like that before). She says she desperately wants to go home, but is still scared of husband. It's the one piece in the puzzle that they can't solve, why she's scared of husband. We both think it's because she doesn't want to be told what to do, or be disciplined in any way. husband said when he saw her she was acting normal to him, not scared in any way, she just asked him to be nicer.Yesterday we both met with the official social worker. He doesn't seem too bad and I could tell from his facial expressions that he believes us, that she hurt herself. I showed him the pics I took the day after she did it, pointed out the hand mark (which I used photoshop to outline) and the fact her "defensive" hand didn't have a mark on it. He said he can't do anything to get her home sooner, it's up to the judge (April 12th). I told him that daughter's boyfriend's mom had seen her hit herself too, so he's going to call her and ask her about it (she's a good friend, she'll be constructive and helpful).
He said one of three things will happen, 1. that they'll just drop the case and leave us alone (which he mentioned first), or if they have to have another trial after the judicial trial, they'd then 2. send her back home (I assume with stipulations) or 3. keep her and set up a a reunification program.
He asked about the pot, I told him that in the past we were threatened with eviction if we smoked outside, and I did it in my bedroom, and that I have a prescrip. Now I have a locked garage that has a locked closet, no access at all for her, or to see me smoking. He left it at that and just wanted a copy of my prescription.
So, I'm seeing that they're seeing our side, but it's all in the hands of the judge. We have witnesses, articles, and her own writing as proof.
They also said that the dietary restrictions is the most he's ever seen. Um, no! She's only dye free and vegetarian. The place she's stay at has no idea what to feed her. They're just taking the meat out of their meals and not giving her anything but carbs. I'm bringing her a giant plate of bean tacos and hopefully cole slaw tomorrow when I see her.
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