Usually I am a pretty upbeat person but this year has been the pits. We've had big tragedies and small ones but very little good news. The vulture of unhappiness just pooped on us again. Since difficult child 2's wife left with the kids, he has been happily playing the field. One girl he has seen a lot is somebody he grew up with. I've known her since she was little. She was definitely a major difficult child and has not had a good life. Three kids by age 22 or less, 2 husbands, one of whom beat her, financial problems, drug problems, etc. but she was a cute girl and had a way about her that made you like her in spite of everything else. difficult child called me tonight to tell me she was alone in a borrowed van, rolled it, and was killed. They were not exactly an "item" but I could tell he's very upset. It seems like I"ve gone years without knowing anybody even being in a car accident and this year this is the 4th one who was killed. I really don't know how much more bad news we can take around here.